🗝️ Post-Orgasm Play: The Secret Guide, Finish First
A D|s-M Method Practice of Softening the Body, Strengthening the Scene, and Submitting the Soul.
🦊 Mr. Fox’s WisDOM:
“When I make her come first, before getting into the scene, I’m not giving up control, I’m deepening our play. I’m handing her an anchor before the storm.”
🔥 What Is Post-Orgasm Play?
Post-orgasm play is a deliberate D|s-M technique where the submissive orgasms before the actual BDSM scene begins. This isn’t a tool used in every session—it’s a specialized technique reserved for deeper scenes where the Dominant plans to take his subMrs through longer, more intense, or more psychologically immersive play.
Her climax is not a finish line.
It is a key, a portal.
Takes you both to a sacred place that softens her mind and makes her body more pliable.
It is used when the scene requires more than compliance—it requires complete surrender.
When used intentionally by both partners, it opens the body, calms the mind, and transforms her from an aroused partner to an obedient subMrs.
🧠 Why the Submissive Orgasms Before Play
1. Emotional & Psychological Softening
An orgasm releases tension, quiets anxiety, and lowers psychological defenses. Once she comes, she drops deeper into:
- Vulnerability
- Trust
- Readiness to serve
“In the beginning, I cried after I came. I wasn’t sad, I surrendered in ways that I never had before.” — Anonymous, subMrs
2. Increases Her Physical Control and Endurance
Paradoxically, letting the submissive orgasm before play allows her to be:
- More grounded in her body
- Better at regulating breath
- Gives the ability to handle pain or intense sensations
After one or two orgasms, her nervous system resets. Her breath deepens. Her body stops chasing climax and becomes fully available for obedience, endurance, and erotic service.
“After two orgasms, I stop thinking about climax. I focus on obeying.” — L.K.
3. Heightens Sensation & Skin Sensitivity
Post-orgasm, a submissive’s:
- Skin becomes somewhat less sensitive
- Breasts and nipples respond faster
- Clitoris and vulva are engorged and throb with residual ache
- The entire body becomes a live wire for dominance
This allows even light touch or soft impact to feel magnified.
4. Deepens the Power Exchange
Giving her a couple of orgasms or letting her take them herself, before play, sets the tone:
- He gave permission for her to take orgasms.
- He let her open herself, then reclaimed her.
- He allows release only to take more from her afterward.
Her pleasure is no longer hers. It’s the first toll to pay before she serves, kneels, or is bound.
💦 The Orgasmic Opening: What Happens in the Body?
When a submissive climaxes before a scene, her body undergoes powerful changes:
| Orgasm Effect | What It Does for BDSM Play |
|---|---|
| The pelvic floor relaxes | This allows deeper penetration and stretching |
| Vaginal canal expands | Prepares for large toys, anal play, or fisting |
| Cervix softens | Makes deep thrusting or impact feel more comfortable |
| Increased blood flow | Heightens sensation, sensitivity to orgasm dulls (somewhat) to touch, clamps, wax, or flogging |
| Oxytocin flood | Builds trust, bonding, and lessens the potential for a quick emotional drop |
🛠️ Tools for Post-Orgasm Ritual Scenes
| Tool Type | Suggestions |
| Orgasm Inducers | Magic Wand, Clit Sucker, G-Spot Dildo |
| Sensory Amplifiers | Feather Ticklers, Pinwheels, Warming Gels |
| Impact Play Tools | Flogger, Riding Crop, Soft Paddle |
| Bondage Equipment | Rope, Leather Cuffs, Blindfolds, Spreaders |
| Aftercare Tools | Warm towel, weighted blanket, water, kisses |
🔥 Ritual Example: “The Two Key Turn”
Step-by-Step:
- Sub is brought to one orgasm using Sir’s chosen method. (This could be her doing it on her own before the scene.)
- He speaks little. He waits. Then gives her the option on how she would like to have the second one.
- After the second orgasm, he immediately issues the first scene command.
- Her head is now quiet. Her body is open. Her service begins.
“The first orgasm is opening the cut. The second is stitching it up. After that, the wound becomes a badge of honor.” — Bunny Whisper~(Every body is different, you need to explore with your partner to see how many orgasms it takes them to the post orgasmic state).
🌒 Scene Snapshot: “The Offering Before the Fire”
A Post-Orgasm Ritual Between Mr. Fox & L.K.
Setting: In the Burrow. The air is thick with intention. A single candle flickers beside a tray of tools, a wand, a blindfold, cuffs, and her collar.
L.K. kneels on a cushion, thighs parted, wrists resting palm-up on her knees. Her body is bare, but her mind is still holding. Still braced.
Mr. Fox is in his black dress shirt with the sleeves rolled and his black button-down jeans, which say “Lucky You” inside the fly. I feel really “lucky” when he lets me see those words.
Mr. Fox (low, measured):
“Before you serve, you must soften. Before I strike, you must surrender. Two orgasms. One to break you open. One to hand me the pieces to put back together.”
He lifts her chin, holds her gaze. Then lowers the wand between her thighs.
💦 First Orgasm: The Breaking
He holds her firmly by the hip, guiding the wand to her clit with unwavering pressure.
She squirms.
He doesn’t stop.
Her breath grows shallow. Her thighs tense.
“Sir… I—please may I—”
“Yes. Now.”
The orgasm tears through her. It doesn’t ask—it claims. Her back arches, her lips part in a silent cry, and her fingers dig into her knees.
She trembles in the aftermath, eyes fluttering. Her thoughts, momentarily gone.
But Mr. Fox doesn’t pause.
💫 Second Orgasm: The Offering
He lifts the wand. He asks how she would like her second. He lets her climax finish and calm. She asks him to give her another with the wand. He tells her, ‘Count backwards from 10.’ She gets to three, and he presses the wand down hard.
She jolts—sensitive, already overwhelmed.
L.K. (gasping): “Too much—Sir—it’s too—”
Mr. Fox (softly): “Hold it back as long as you can, work your body over the head, just keep yourself from falling as long as you can.”
Her legs shake. Her voice catches in her throat.
The second orgasm builds differently, slower, heavier, deeper in her belly. Less about pleasure, more about her controlling the plateau.
She doesn’t just ride it, she sinks into it. She surfs it, edging herself as long as she can, crying out as it rolls through her, and when it fades, she slumps forward, panting, body limp, head bowed like an offering.
Now… she is ready.
He sets the wand down with ritual care. Wipes her inner thigh with a warm cloth. Then cuffs her wrists in front with a clip.
No praise. No warmth yet.
He blindfolds her.
He presses his palm to her chest.
They breathe together. Deep. Intentional. Four counts in. Hold. Four counts out.
Then:
Mr. Fox: “On your knees. Mouth open.”
She obeys immediately. No hesitation. No resistance. She’s not chasing her orgasm anymore. she’s chasing his will.
The scene has begun.
🐇 Bunny Whisper:
“He gave me two orgasms, not as a gift, but as an opportunity to go as far as he can take me. The first unraveled me. The second made me his. And what followed… was not pleasure. It was purpose.”
