Declarations of Love | Cupid & Eros’ Mark

A declaration of love or Cupid’s & Eros’ Mark is a mark you give or receive in loving another, a claim. Some couples enjoy marking one another as “theirs”. Love doesn’t have to hurt, unless you really want it to and you must always ask nicely.

The Roman God Cupid is mostly identified for his role on one day a year, Valentine’s Day. I tend to like to use his Greek counterpart, Eros to describe declarations of love because his type love fits Marriage’s Sexiest Secret better than his counterpart’s and he has always been known as the more erotic and mischevious of the two. Eros, today is generally known as a “type” of love and not a God. His love is one that’s that is new and in the fiery beginning stages that involves physical attraction, desire, and longing. 

Looking deeper into Gods, Eros and Cupid there are interesting differences that define each one.

• Appearance: Eros is depicted in history as a handsome young man, embodying sexual power and profound artistry. While Cupid is more commonly portrayed as an innocent winged child or cherub. Both Gods are shown carrying a bow and arrow.
• Symbolization: Eros represents a primal force associated with nature, driving human relationships, creation, and pursuit of passion. Cupid symbolizes playful and innocent aspects of love and celebration of romantic relationships.
• Origin and Parentage: Eros’ origins are more complex. Some accounts depict him as a primordial being, that’s been on the earth since the beginning of time, while others make him the son of Aphrodite and Ares. Cupid, in Roman mythology, is portrayed as the son of Venus and Mars. 

• Their Love: Eros’ love is a more intense, often capricious, lustful, and salacious, sometimes even a violent form of love and desire. The nature of his love could be considered mischievous and sometimes vindictive in his power to make people fall in love.  His love is often all about need about a person’s feeling sexually attractive than it is about the person who is the focus of that love or thing that is the focus of that love. Cupid’s love is often depicted as more benevolent and associated with focus of romantic love between two people.

I have created 3 levels of these declarations of love that are based on the commitment level, the level of Intimacy that is involved and the strength of emotion felt in each of these acts.

Entry Level

Entry Level Declarations are for beginner’s intimacy. The commitment level is low. Physically marking the skin with something that can be washed off immediately after the intimacy has ceased.

• Pen/Markers– Words of love and affirmation are always a great thing to write on the body. You can make it very sexy and intense as you BOTH would like.
• Lipstick Kisses– You can again use words with kisses. Try lots of colors.
• Foods– Whipped cream, chocolate sauce, Fixing your partners favorite dessert and rubbing it on their body and eating it off. Make sure you keep any sugar off your “naughty bits”.
• Golden Shower– Do this in the shower. Do your homework and make it a very passionate experience.
• Faux Tattoo– These can be words, letters, initials, images that means something to you both.

Intermediate Level

Intermediate Level is the level where you mark the body leaving a real mark. These are a higher commitment level where the marks will sometimes take a week or more to disappear.

• Hickey– It’s the end result of what happens when your partner sucks, licks, and bites your skin. That pressure from the suction breaks little blood vessels. Those broken vessels release tiny spots of blood called petechiae. A collection of these blood spots forms a dark spot or bruise.
• Suction Toys/Tools – These are sex toys or tools that suction the skin. This can cause bruising and swelling of the skin and intimate areas. This is why I put these items as intermediate level.
• Scratches– These can be inflicted by sharp nails or instruments/tools. They can be light or heavy.
• Bites-Sinking your teeth into flesh can cause marks that stay with a person for weeks. You can put them anywhere on the body. Start slow find out how your skin reacts to bites in different areas before getting really kinky with it!

Advanced Level

The Advanced level is the level I have called the “Badges of Honor”… level. These are the MOST intimate, not only physically but emotionally. The stakes are higher with Advanced Level as they can take you up high and then you can drop low. Do you like a little pain with your pleasure, even a lot of pain with your pleasure? All of these items you need to start small and work your way up to stronger tools and play.

• Impact Implements– These are the tools of kink and BDSM. Just because you have a tool doesn’t mean you should wield it at its highest impact. Remember, the instrument just making an appearance gives you results without even using it. These items require the person using it to use it on themselves and pillows BEFORE using it on another person. This includes crops, belts, straps, floggers, whips, canes, and paddles. Light taps and work your way up over time!
• Spanking– I post spanking separate because using a “hand” to spank is actually one of the best implements to start with and can be expanded on in quite delicious ways. I am not talking about a few smacks on the bum. I am talking a true spanking scene that can leave you with “cupid’s or Eros’ marks”. Start off simple, light and then combine using other tools/toys with it and take it where you both want to go!
• Rope– Imprinting the skin with bondage rope/shibari takes special training and schooling about how to tie the body, where to tie and how long you can tie someone and the parts of the body. This bondage play is very intimate but takes a skilled hand. Lots of homework and appropriate tools are required. As anything else the more you learn the better the play will be. It feels great to see imprints where the rope used to be on your body.
• Permanent Tattoo– This is permanent mark…. How I look at tattoos is think of yourself as an 70 yr old…. What will this look like on me then? Will I still be proud to wear it?
• Body Piercing/Needles– Many times piercings are in intimate areas! Areas such as nipples, (vulva),labia, clitoris, and different areas of the penis. Use the question’s I stated about tattoos above. Belly button piercing doesn’t sound so bad now, huh? Maybe put another hole in your ear instead? Needle play is another play between couples that needs time learning and skilled hands. This many times will involve blood, make sure hygiene is number one along with safety.

My First Badges of Honor

Declarations of love which I also refer to as “Badges of Honor” are marks on my body from BDSM play. These marks are NOT done out of anger, violence or disappointment. They are done within Dominance and Submission Play and Scenes. These marks were made with the enjoyment and discovery of both a husband and a wife.

When I received my first “badges” my thoughts were this……… I could only hope the marks, bruising and bites will be there tomorrow from where his fingerprints had dug into my flesh and where his hands had kissed my ass and his tools of torture cut into my skin. Of course, thinking to myself, I could then press on those badges and feel once more what I felt in those moments of utter sexual bliss. Making me think back at the Dominance he had shown me that I had craved for him to show me!

I named these marks “badges of honor” because I felt like the marks were a tale of battle, fear and then conquering a war. For those who are not ready for war and would like instead a little declaration of love in war’s stead, these ideas are for you. Those of you are looking for a war to win, this is also for you. Either way, use Cupid and or Eros in your intimacy!