MSS011 – The Erotic Art of Scening

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SPEAKERS

Mr Fox , Little Kaninchen

Mr Fox   00:00

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Little Kaninchen  00:44

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Mr Fox   02:21

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Little Kaninchen  02:32

and this is LK.

Mr Fox   02:33

Today we are your host and hostess to your favorite flavor of erotic madness. Married dominance and submission, aka marriages sexiest secret secret. Are you ready to experience the chase and to married dominance and submission? Come with us down the rabbit hole and into the boxes. Dan?

Little Kaninchen  02:55

Welcome to Marriage is sexy secret podcast. I’ll take voyeurs. Glympse for $500 Alex, here are these whips and chains. That’s your first hint for today’s topic. Let me give you another and another No. Another clip that is light Camera. Action. Can you guess it? I’ll give you a minute.

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Little Kaninchen  03:36

Okay, well, I’ll give it to you. Anyways, today we examine the erotic art of scening in our communities this month, our theme is scening September why scening September? Well September is actually pleasure your mate month and my thought was how do couples pleasure each other in this thing we do? Well scening Of course. Today our episode we’ll be talking through this Mrs. Eyes. So there’s your quick glimpse. That’s all you get for now. You have to hang out a while longer to get the full monty

Mr Fox   04:11

Everybody loves the full monty purse saw here. Anyways, anyways, proceed.

Little Kaninchen  04:18

Today we talk a bit about building a married dominance and submission scene. First, what’s the scene? A scene is a scheduled and planned out time where a couple us BDSM activities that may or may not involve sexual intercourse. I know we all want it to but sometimes it doesn’t. So we’ll begin with planning a scene. The key to a great scene is planning ahead together. In D/s-M we suggest to married couples that they scene two times a month if it’s possible. Pick your date, taking into consideration meds, hormones and cycles. begin to think about what you both want from your scene. What type of scene Do you really want to do, there are different types of scenes, there are training scenes. And when I say training scenes, I mean like oral training, anal training, orgasm training, position training. Then there’s impact scenes, spanking, using your hand, crop, flogging caning, using multiples of those things. Then there are experience scenes. Those are the experiences where you want to try something new like wax play, Deep Throat play, electro play. Then I have roleplay, scenes, master-slave, Little Princess, daddy, animal and fuzzy play, pain play. Then we come to the type of training scene where you use Shibari and rope. There are so many different types of scenes, but that’s the general list. So your overall atmosphere, what does it look like? Think about your props, which are like furniture, tools. When I say tools, I mean things like rubber gloves, lubricants. Also, you could have toys, costumes you might use in your atmosphere. General atmosphere is like candle sense music. Then you think about aftercare. Where do we end the scene in your bed? We’ve talked about submissive nests. Also with the aftercare, we talk about the skincare the lotions, rehydrating drinks, blankets, things that make you feel very comfortable and loved after you have a scene. So you’re imagining and fantasizing what the scene will look and feel like for both of you. A happy submissive is one that’s given things to do in preparation, am I right? But she doesn’t want to plan the actual scene. She would like her sir, to plan that actual scene. She wants to feel his dominance through the scene. Now, when I say those things, it’s okay for a submissive to suggest in the pre-planning. Subs can always adjust and add to the scene. Let their SIRs know what their likes and dislikes and desires are. So to follow up, where does the scene start for the sub and Dom? In the mind, the brain is the largest sex organ for a woman as well as men. Yes, guys, your brain is larger than your penis. When does a scene start? The scene starts the moment you schedule it, or begin speaking about it. A quick rule of thumb with most things in BDSM is the 20 Minute Rule. Now this is different for everyone. This is a very general rule. So use this as your standard time for clips, clamps, you don’t want to cough circulation to areas too long as it can kill the tissue and you could even lose a nipple. Also, when theming day in a certain play or position about the same amount of time, the body needs a little movement or flexing during sessions. Even when you’re orgasming and you’re sitting in a certain position, you keep trying I think to have that orgasm. But if it’s not happening, if things are not happening in that scene, use that 20-minute rule. Sometimes it’s even less for some women. Check-in with your SIR, ask if you can move a little bit somehow so you can achieve the pleasure that he’s trying to give you. There’s never any shame in communication. So let’s move on to ideas for scenes. Use your community. This community use some Mrs. Your serves us has done. There are forums there’s groups and chats to get wonderful ideas. Use that search bar on some Mrs. And Hassan. There are more than 10 years of archived ideas in there. Read a book, read fictional read nonfictional. Write down your ideas, keep them in your journals, the husbands can keep them in their little black books. Staying inspired is all about reading and learning from others. And if anything else, just go watch some good old porn together that will give you some ideas for remember porn is fictional. So let’s talk a little bit about through this a missus’s eyes. For submissive. There is yet another key to great domination submission scene knowing how to use and work your inner submissive. Learning how she responds to different stimulus is very important. Learning what’s pleasing to your dominant is very important. Building a scene of performing is a true art. It is definitely a team sport. Yet each person needs to study and grow in their roles. I love to think of it as producing a theater show. It takes both partners engaging in the role and doing their best to come out with a great production. It is very common that sometimes Mr. Fox and I will work on a scene repeatedly until it runs smooth. We discuss after every scene what worked and what did not. Taking that info we apply it and make the scene better and better. Again, some misses journal has Dom’s put it in your little black book. Your notes are golden not only to your future scenes but to keep a chronicle of your journey. Your scenes will start about an hour is about appropriate time and quickly expand in time as you try more and more elements. I have to give a warning on the don’t do. Okay. Never do drugs or drink before a scene for multiple reasons. The mind? Well, you and your partner can lose control or have lack of control. Physically, drinking alcohol can make you bruise more easily. And when I say drink, some people do have a drink before they scene a drink. There’s not an issue with that. But always make sure you rehydrate after you play. I also say a two-drink Max. But I would say with that to drink Max. Drink Two glasses of water as well. But let’s talk about the brief the brief before the scene, your dominant Bay want to start with a briefing. briefing as an action of informing or instructing someone briefing can be in person or written in an email or given to the submissive at any point before the scene. You can discuss things in downtime as well. You know, it just depends on how much prep time is needed for the scene. Your dominant in the brief will tell you his wishes for the scene. This is when your SIR will be very business. It’s best at this point to understand that you are the object for his pleasure. What does his DOM one, don’t be his wife at this point, be a submissive in the brief, he will list his expectations of his submissive what he wishes his submissive to wear. But it also will instruct the submissive on how to begin the scene where she should start, where you are to be how you are to be sitting or in a position if you’re allowed to verbalize or touch him. In a submissive eyes, you read and make sure to understand every word that is spoken or written in this briefing. Make sure you give him all that’s needed from you. If there’s something in question, then you have to let him know before the scene. sir may I ask? These questions will clear doubts in misunderstandings and help the scene flow more smoothly. Do not assume anything. You ask ahead of time. And this will help your dominance in many ways. always communicate, ask and discuss. So when you’re beginning the scene, the atmosphere your SIR will be setting atmosphere within the scene ahead of the time picking the activities in the scene. They will put the tools and toys out that will be needed. As a submissive you take this time to get the mindset you need. Meditate, stretch, you know do some exercise before you get in the shower. Anything to keep your mind moving.

Mr Fox   13:11

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Little Kaninchen  14:12

so we talked about transition into the mindset of your roles. The beginning of the scene this is a transition time into your role you will be bonding and letting each other know that you’re in this together your SIRs chance to relax you a bit. It’s a loving atmosphere at this point, you’re so remind you have your safe words red, yellow, green, or word that you both have agreed on previously. Now this is a general setup of how Mr. Fox and I usually do our scenes. Keep in mind, you can kind of pull from this what you want and what works for you and then move it around if that’s what you need. But usually we start with petting bonding and like verbal reminders and option for the bonding. Their dominant may want to use a brush or kind of braid your hair pulling Get back so it doesn’t get in the way of the scene or get caught up in D rings or whatever. You may want to sit and he may want to massage or slather you down in oil, softly touching you everywhere, the word softly, your neck, your lower back the inside of your thighs behind your knees, except he’s not going to be putting any oil in those places that you want it the most. But it’s nice that he may whisper some soft, caring words in your ears and reassure you that he will take care of you, asking you for your submission and your acceptance of giving it freely, very important. Lastly, your SIR will ask and remind you of your safe word red, yellow, green, the word you have already agreed on. And then when you when you’re really looking through the eyes as a submissive again, your butterflies are excitement, our n but they will start to settle. You will gain confidence knowing this is this is your job. This is what you’re doing this for your his submissive you’re not looking at as his wife or his girlfriend. You’re gaining confidence in your services. And knowing this is what you want and he is about to take you under his hand and play you like our true instrument. You have to let go and let him enjoy you, your body will begin to respond to His words, and you will fall into him. The next step of the scene is prepping the body warming the muscles and the mind and getting those endorphins at the start. First prepping of the submissive skin, the dog may have already oil to skin or you can do that now. petting the sub skin is essential, easily moving her and lightly directing her. Again, the key words are easily and lightly. The DOM wants to make the subs muscle more pliable and flexible for what has seen demands. bending her over getting the subs attention always works for me getting her out of her head and back into the role of her job. So if you’re having issues with that, let your server know that you may be struggling you’re in your head and him demanding certain things of you or making you bend really quick. Kinda will snap you back in. So as he does that, he’s getting you out of your head, he begins to rub a little harder, his touch becomes a little more harsh. His subs back arms and legs. He keeps rubbing them as you’re doing this, it begins to warm skin. This is transitioning your mind, the Dom has to begin to let go of the love and move into his dominance, grabbing the back of your neck or pulling at the base of your hair which we all love that sensation, wonderful sensation. If you’ve ever read a bit about skin and the reaction impact or spanking, then you know it’s very important before that you do any impact that you ready the skin. readying the skin for play is done starting out light thing getting more vigorous, vigorously rubbing, then cupping into soft pinching and tapping. throwing something sharp, in like a little slap a little harsher handling in the combo here and there makes it exciting. And it’s tricking you both into your roles moving out of the loving and soft into the business of your role. The skin begins to react and both of you and your roles minds, you begin to react and become your submissive and his Hassan, the mind in the DOM is falling into his role as a dominant and now prepping the sub skin and triggering her endorphins to start moving her into the brain and the female sub is creating her own lubrication that can be checked by the dominant. Then the next step you go into symbolic bondage and initiating the implements. Having the sub kneel and symbolically placing the subs wrist and ankle cuffs on and color is where the DOM marks the change. Personally, from being personal wife into objectifying his submissives she is now bound to serve Him in whatever way he wants her needs. It’s a wonderful way to symbolize things. She can be kneeling, she can be standing however, the dominant likes. After cupping and ownership has been taken implements to initiate more sensation to the area so be used further or to trigger more endorphins in the brain. A domme may ask yourself if she wants more endorphins, using his judgment if he wants her there or not. These additional steps will help make the scene more physically and mentally a successful experience. Aidan may use additional leather pieces as a hog tie a leash or rope clips, clamps tape, the list could go on and on. But always have a medical scissor ready for quick release. Removing a sense like vision will make the body more reactive. blindfolding the submissive will make her skin more alert. It’s the dominants best friend the blindfold. This blindfold gives the DOM leniency on his organization and the sub her imagination of being in a scene in her head. The one that she’s always read about and loved, blindfolded the sound of the wander vibrator, not where we wanted Of course, we’ll take the scene up a notch. The DOM can begin the teasing by brushing against the tender nerve ending areas with the wand, his fingers, even his cock. Verbally the DOM asks, Do you want it physically asking you to touch him or take him into your mouth, licking rubbing himself against your most sensitive part, sadly, no penetration until you perform to his standards. He should be driving his son, mind and body to the brink, making his son more wanton. Begging for his hands attention. The nipples and the pressure points should be tugged on. stimulated in some way, working the sub easily into impact tools that is planned. light taps with the crop soft swats with a leather glove or paddle are good things to start with. Make the submissive beg for it. Now in the submissives eyes, the best thing to do when doing bondage is the trust you’d have in your DOM. Don’t struggle against the bondage. You can get hurt very easily by jerking or pulling too quickly. User safe words, if you need a DOM to slow down call yellow, but yellow is not red. Just slow the roll and check in with words. If ever triggered in a bad way, read out, say read. It’s a stop, discuss and reschedule the scene at that point. Now let’s get into application of impact employments. Now, impact play, the dominant will use any implement that he may tickle vibrate or strike with. This includes his hand a flogger whip crop, leather straps canes. This type of activity is why it’s so important to warm and prepare the skin. Always ask that your sir has practiced on something other than you lots before trying a new employment in a scene. Also, I’d recommend before using it in the scene, use it in play time tested out. It’s kind of like that example of getting those new pair of high heels you’re going to wear to some event. And then you first time you wear them, you wear them to the event and then your feet are killing you and you have blisters for weeks afterwards. Same thing here, you don’t want blisters, you don’t want some type of surprise, you don’t want to have to take it off because something bad happened. So always test it out usually in a little play time before when you actually get something new. Now with the swelling of tissues under the skin, the submissive will feel less and less of the impact and be able to take more and more intense impact as a session continues. Very important that the DOM learn to submissive skin, what it looks like. And when it’s had enough, the DOM does this by always checking in, he can begin doing that by checking one to 10. Overtime, he will begin to recognize his submissive tail tails, even when she cannot. Now we’ve gone into impact and now we’re going to get into the good stuff, right? We’re talking about intercourse and fucking the dominant. When satisfied with giving his sub all he wants, he stops and pack takes her off any of the equipment and moves this tub to a place to reward her. The DOM should rub shoulders, make sure his sub is in good condition. As a good fucking as an order for all her hard work. The DOM starts to unwind to become softer again. This is the frosting to the cake. Your sir will take his final orgasm from you and he will climax here. If my service still wound up, he’ll put me on my stomach and explain he wants a hard release and for me to completely submit to Him and open up. He rides me until his release and he will slowly turn me over giving me every release I need in a softer way. A kind DOM will continue with a wand or whatever you need until he begins counting you down and out of the scene. I always feel a unique sadness when he tells me he’s beginning the countdown. Then we get to the aftercare and debriefing. Right after care. It’s over, you get to relax a little bit. The Cara Dom takes of his subs mind and body after a senior session is aftercare. Also, he should not forget about his own care. A rehydrating drink a warm blanket and a small nap is appropriate for both parties after a scene. The DOM may also apply any ointments to the skin that’s needed. Who knows you may come out of this with badges of honor. Your dog may even want to take pics of the rope marks or your body’s badges of honor, so he couldn’t remember the scene. Mr. Fox always lets me nap while he rehydrates and cleans up after the scene. I usually am up within 45 minutes and in the shower. You may experience a little letdown or some call sub drop. This sub drop is normal For a few hours, you know your body in mind. If it’s lasting more than a day, I would say, then you may want to communicate that to your SIR. And then it goes on further, you can even take it to a therapist or to your doctor, it’s always better to figure out that it’s fine than it not end up being, you know, something that you definitely struggle with. Now, let’s talk about the debrief. Once you’re both feeling more yourselves, it is good to debrief or examine the scene, I advise you to do it sooner than later, you will remember the things that worked or the things that led up to those things that did not work. So it’s very important that you both are honest with all your thoughts. So the scene in play can even be more successful the next time around, take notes in your journals, and again, has done so little black box. It may also be good to write your feelings in a journal, so you can track how you respond and grow in the scene, you will surprise yourself. A few final notes in the submissive thoughts. Your dominant will push and stretch you and your limits, but he won’t break you. This is his job and his wish you are to remember, you’re his tool to use to achieve his deepest and darkest desires. It is your job to help them receive the highest peaks. Both parties should be enjoying the play having a wonderful time exploring one another’s minds and bodies. 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Mr Fox   26:44

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Little Kaninchen  28:09

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Mr Fox   28:14

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Little Kaninchen  28:26

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