Pompoir Technique | The Power of PC Muscles | Secret Guide
How Women & MEN Can Use Them for Pleasure, Health, and Intimacy
What Are PC Muscles?
The pubococcygeus (PC) muscles are part of the pelvic floor, a hammock-like group of muscles that span from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tailbone). For both men and women, these muscles play a role in:
- Supporting pelvic organs.
- Controlling urination and bowel movements.
- Enhancing sexual function.
When you hear terms like Kegels or Pompoir, they’re referring to exercising or skillfully using these muscles.
PC Muscles in Women: Pompoir
The word Pompoir comes from French, derived from the verb pomper (to pump, French drain). In the sexual context, however, Pompoir refers to the art of contracting and releasing the vaginal and pelvic floor muscles during penetration to create pleasurable sensations for both partners. In different cultures, it has also been described as the “Singapore grip” or the practice of massaging, “milking” a partner’s penis during penetration.
Benefits for women:
- Increased vaginal tone and sensitivity.
- Ability to heighten arousal and reach orgasm more easily.
- Greater control of sexual rhythm.
- Creates a unique, enveloping sensation for her partner.
Benefits for men (when the woman uses pompoir):
- Prolonged arousal and heightened stimulation.
- A sense of being “held” or massaged from within.
- Moving the PC muscles enhances intimacy, as the movement feels intentional and connected.
PC Muscles in Men
Pompoir is not only used by women. Men can also benefit significantly from training their pelvic floor muscles. For them, strong pelvic floor control can mean:
- Firmer, longer-lasting erections (better blood flow and muscle support).
- Improved orgasm control (ability to delay ejaculation through conscious contraction).
- Intensified orgasms, as the PC muscles are directly involved in ejaculation.
- Reduced risk of erectile dysfunction and urinary incontinence later in life.
Some advanced practices even allow men to separate orgasm from ejaculation by mastering PC contractions, a skill explored in tantric arts traditions.
Using PC Muscles During Sex | Partner’s Sensations
The Grip, Pulse, and Wave Techniques
The Grip Technique. The grip is the most straightforward. The submissive tightens her PC muscles firmly around her Dominant’s penis and holds the squeeze. It creates a sense of being clasped and enveloped, heightening stimulation and giving the Dominant the feeling of control within her strength. The grip can be used to welcome penetration, signal readiness, or emphasize obedience.
Dominant’s perspective: The grip feels like being locked inside her, a tight embrace that conveys both strength and submission. It can signal her devotion and amplify his sense of possession.
The Pulse Technique: The pulse is rhythmic squeezing and releasing of the PC muscles in a steady beat. These contractions can be slow and deliberate, or rapid and teasing. Pulsing creates an internal massage that builds arousal for both partners. It can mirror the Dominant’s thrusts or counter them, creating a duet of sensation and rhythm.
Dominant’s perspective: The pulse feels like a deliberate, teasing massage that he can command or ride. Each contraction is a reminder of her obedience, and when synchronized with his thrusts, it becomes a shared rhythm that heightens intimacy and control.
The Wave Technique The wave is a rolling sequence of contractions, almost like ripples moving from front to back. To practice:
- Begin with a light squeeze as if holding back urination.
- Then slowly shift the contraction deeper, drawing the feeling toward the back of the vagina and anus.
- Release gradually, letting the muscles ripple in order.
This creates a wave‑like massage that the Dominant can feel inside. It is not just a squeeze, but a fluid motion that can be synchronized with thrusts, edging, or commands. The wave begins with the muscle contracting high around the clitoris, then draws inward, pulling sensation through the vaginal canal until it completes the circle around the anus. With practice, the wave technique becomes a tool of arousal, devotion, and orgasm control.
Dominant’s perspective: The wave feels like rolling tides of sensation flowing around him. It is intoxicating, as though her body is beckoning and pulling him deeper with each ripple. When commanded, it becomes a breathtaking display of skill and submission. The wave technique is a method where a submissive contracts her PC muscles in a rolling sequence, almost like ripples moving from front to back. To practice:
- Begin with a light squeeze as if holding back urination.
- Then slowly shift the contraction deeper, drawing the feeling toward the back of the vagina and anus.
- Release gradually, letting the muscles ripple in order.
This creates a wave‑like massage that the Dominant can feel inside. It is not just a squeeze, but a fluid motion that can be synchronized with thrusts, edging, or commands. With practice, the wave technique becomes a tool of arousal, devotion, and orgasm control.
When both partners are aware of their PC muscles, lovemaking can reach new levels:
- For Her: She can grip, pulse, or “wave” her PC muscles during penetration, creating a dynamic experience.
- For Him: He can contract during penetration to slow arousal, add intensity to thrusts, or hold back climax.
- Together, they can synchronize contractions, creating a “Lovers’ Lock”, a deep, erotic clasp that feels like their bodies are sealing together, holding each other in intimate captivity, or even building waves of orgasmic energy between them.
This mutual handshake control creates a heightened sense of intimacy, erotic play, and physical synergy.
Practicing Anytime | Outside the Bedroom
PC muscle training isn’t only for sex; it’s a daily wellness tool.
For Women:
- Helps with recovery after childbirth.
- Prevents urinary leakage and prolapse.
- Builds confidence in body awareness.
For Men:
- Prevents incontinence.
- Keeps erections strong into older age.
- Supports prostate health.
How to Practice (Kegels):
- Identify the PC muscle by stopping urination mid-flow (don’t make this the exercise itself, use it once to locate).
- Contract for 5 seconds, then relax for 5.
- Repeat 10–15 times, twice to three times a day.
- Work up to holding longer or doing quick pulses for strength and control.
Orgasm Control, Vaginal Lengthening, Toys, and PC Muscles
One of the most potent applications of PC muscle awareness is in the realm of orgasm control. Learning to consciously contract or release the pelvic floor allows partners to extend arousal, edge closer to climax, or hold it back altogether. For submissives, this may mean using PC squeezes to ride waves of pleasure while awaiting permission to proceed. For Dominants, it provides the ability to recognize and direct their partner’s arousal with precision. Training in this way strengthens not just the body, but the capacity to weave desire, tension, and surrender into deliberate erotic practice.
Beyond control, repeated arousal and pelvic engagement can also lead to vaginal lengthening and cervical tenting. As arousal rises and the uterus subtly lifts, the vaginal canal expands and deepens. This natural change means that grip, pulse, and wave techniques not only heighten sensation but can also prepare the body for deeper penetration, making the experience more comfortable and more intense.
Using PC Muscles with Toys and Tools
Contracting the PC muscles also has an internal effect on anatomy. Each time a woman performs a kegel, the contraction subtly pulls the clitoris inward, changing how sensation is perceived. This movement also alters the feeling inside the vaginal canal, adding nuance to penetration or toy play. Learning to notice these shifts can make every squeeze a different flavor of arousal, and a powerful element of orgasm control.
PC muscle engagement can greatly enhance play with dildos, vibrators, plugs, and other erotic tools. By consciously gripping, pulsing, or waving around toys, the submissive increases her own sensation and provides feedback that can be seen or felt by the Dominant. For men, engaging the pelvic floor during toy play, such as prostate massage or edging with a masturbator, creates stronger contractions, heightening climax control and intensity.
For Submissives:
- Practice gripping dildos or plugs, focusing on endurance.
- Use pulsing contractions during vibration to amplify sensations.
- Wave contractions around an inserted toy, building skill for partnered play.
For Dominants:
- Command specific PC techniques while your partner uses a toy, reinforcing obedience and compliance.
- Observe how the contractions change her arousal, using this as guidance to tease or deny release.
- Engage your own pelvic floor during edging or prostate play for heightened mastery.
Integrating PC control into toy and tool play makes each device more than an object; it becomes an extension of the dynamic, a training ground for orgasm control, surrender, and erotic artistry.
Dominants can also assign homework with toys and Kegels. A submissive may be instructed to practice the grip, pulse, and wave techniques while using a wand, dildo, or plug, reporting back on her progress. This turns private practice into an act of obedience, devotion, and training that benefits both partners when they come together.
In a D|s-M Dynamic
For couples practicing Dominance and submission, PC muscle training can also be ritualized and eroticized:
- A Dominant may command their submissive to do daily “training squeezes” as an act of training and devotion.
- A submissive may learn to recognize when her body “milks” her Dominant, a signal of surrender and heightened arousal.
- The Dominant can also feel the difference during penetration, using that awareness to decide when to edge, tease, or allow orgasm.
This turns what might be a simple exercise into a tool of control, surrender, and erotic mastery.
Erotic Scene Example: Mr. Fox & L.K.
The room was dim, only candles casting soft shadows against the walls. L.K. lay beneath Mr. Fox, her breath warm against his ear.
🦊 Mr. Fox: “Show me your strength, little rabbit. Grip me. Milk me as if your body wants to drink me in.”
🐇 L.K.: She inhaled deeply, then contracted her PC muscles in slow, deliberate pulses. Each squeeze wrapped around him like velvet, pulling a growl from his throat. She timed her contractions with his thrusts, drawing him deeper, keeping him right where she wanted him.
🦊 Mr. Fox: “Good girl. You control the pace, and yet, you surrender it all to me.”
Their rhythm built until her body began to quiver, every contraction a testament to her devotion. He slowed, then thrust deep, holding her hips, savoring the waves that rolled between them, a dance of control, surrender, and erotic mastery through muscle and will.
✨ In short:
Using the PC muscles, whether in the art of pompoir or through everyday strengthening, creates better sex, deeper intimacy, and long-term pelvic health for both men and women.
