The Mars & Venus Butterfly Technique: Oral Sex, Power, and the Erotic Dance of Dominance and Surrender | Secret Guide

Oral sex, when given with intention, can become a divine act of pleasure, power, and submission. When we look to myth, few relationships symbolize erotic polarity better than Mars and Venus, the God of War and the Goddess of Love. Their legendary affair embodies the exact tension that fuels Dominance and submission: passion meeting discipline, desire meeting control.

This article explores the Mars & Venus Butterfly Technique, the sensual, teasing approach to oral sex that draws out climax with deliberate anticipation, and elevates it into an erotic ritual worthy of the gods. We’ll explore how it applies to both cunnilingus and fellatio, offer BDSM twists, and finish with tips for both submissives and Dominants, channeling the spirit of Venus’ seduction and Mars’ command.

When Mars Commanded Venus

In Roman mythology, Venus may have been the goddess of love and beauty, but it was Mars, the god of war and masculine intensity, the embodiment of battle and aggression, who ignited her passion for assertive love (Loving the Bad-Boy). Their legendary union wasn’t soft; it was charged with dominance and lust. He was a challenge to her, one she wanted to conquer. Mars was not a gentle servant to Venus; he was her taker, captor, and irresistible force. Her surrender to Mars was chosen, but not out of weakness. She offered herself to his command, dominance, seducing him even as she submitted. Their erotic tension sets the stage for what the Mars & Venus Butterfly Technique embodies: controlled oral mastery, erotic restraint, and deliberate exchange of power. Venus’ oral performance of the butterfly appeared as worship as she knelt before Mars, yet she intentionally and exquisitely gave him torment.

Many famous art pieces portray Venus, along with the help of the Graces and Cupids, showing sneakily removing Mars’ weapons, helmet, shield, and armor. Mars allows himself to be disarmed and gives in to Venus’s charms; it had to be the Butterfly Technique!

The Venus Butterfly Explained

The Venus Butterfly technique, named for the fluttering, teasing touch of a lover’s mouth, is an oral sex method that can be adapted to honor either polarity. It’s warfare disguised as worship. Born from the mythic tension between Mars’ unyielding dominance and Venus’ irresistible allure, this technique turns oral sex into a weapon of control. It’s the art of teasing the edge of climax with ruthless precision, never giving too much, never too soon. Mars uses his mouth not to serve, but to command, holding Venus captive in waves of denied release until she’s trembling, begging, utterly undone. This isn’t casual pleasure, it’s orchestrated torment, a slow, deliberate claiming of the body through discipline, hunger, and power. When done right, it’s not just oral—it’s obedience extracted one moan at a time.

For Venus: CUNNILINGUS WITH THE GODDESS IN MIND

Technique:

1. Tease Like a Whisper: Let your tongue hover over the clit, just barely touching.
2. Flutter: Use rapid, light tongue flicks across the clitoral hood and labia.
3. Suction Play: Combine with gentle sucking on the clitoris—then stop before climax.
4. Pressure Pause: Use your palm or flat tongue to apply firm pressure as she rides the edge.
5. Repeat: Edge her multiple times to heighten intensity.

BDSM Options:

• Restrain her wrists/ankles to the bedpost, forcing stillness.
• Use orgasm denial: “You’ll have no permission to climax.”
• Add mound spanking or clit/labia clamps to contrast sweet tongue with sharp discipline.
• Make her verbally beg, like Mars once did, pleading for release from his erotic grasp.

For Mars: FELLATIO FOR THE GOD OF WAR

Technique:

1. Breathe, Don’t Touch: Begin with breath. Let warm air tease the shaft.
2. Kiss Like a Worshiper: Use tongue to circle the head, focusing on the frenulum.
3. Butterfly Licks: Light, quick flicks up and down the shaft and head.
4. Stroking Sync: Use one hand to stroke slowly in time with your fluttering tongue.
5. Deny, Then Devour: Back off right before orgasm, then look up, waiting for his command.

BDSM Options:

• Place Mars on his throne (chair) and kneel for worship.
• Wear a choke collar with a leash so he can reinforce your service.
• Wear a mouth spreader.
• Keep eye contact as you edge him, power expressed through silence.

Expanded Options for Exploration

• Elemental Play: Use breath, ice, or warm tea to alter sensation.
• Mirror Scenes: Let one partner watch the other submit or command.
• Toys + Tongue: Combine oral with a clit-sucker, cock ring, anal plug, or vibe.
• Role-play: Reenact Venus commanding Mars to serve, or Mars forcing Venus to kneel.

Tips for Submissives (Channeling Mars in Service or Venus in Surrender)

“Worship isn’t weakness, it’s erotic devotion.”

• Offer your mouth with reverence and presence.
• Use your body as a gift, this is sacred oral service.
• Ask permission to climax, or request to continue if denied.
• Afterward, kneel and thank your Dominant for the experience.

Tips for Dominants (Channeling Venus’ Power or Mars’ Command)

“Control is the highest form of seduction.”

• Speak slowly, touch deliberately, less is more.
• Use oral pleasure as reward or punishment.
• Make them edge until their thighs shake or their will crumbles.
• Maintain aftercare, your control includes emotional safety.

Final Thoughts

The Mars & Venus Butterfly Technique is more than oral sex; it’s erotic mythology brought to life. Whether you’re the one in command or on your knees, it’s about savoring power, extending pleasure, and deepening intimacy. Like the gods, let your dynamic be a dance, equal parts passion, devotion, and surrender.

When Mars kneels for Venus, or when Venus obeys Mars, the scene becomes divine.