The Secret to an Untamed Valentine’s Day

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Little Kaninchen 1:30
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Welcome to Marriage. Is sexy a secret where today we will dive into the history mythology and modern twists of Looper Kalia.

In today’s episode, we’re blending ancient history with Modern Love, exploring how we can add some Looper Kalia intimacy into our Valentine’s Day celebrations. With our partners join me and a special co host today that has a familial interest in these ancient practices. Our guest will be Rhian. We will talk about how this ancient tradition could add a whole new layer of playfulness, fun, romance, and, dare we say, a little wildness to your Valentine’s Day.

Let’s go.

Okay, let’s welcome rhiann. We want to welcome Rianne to the podcast today. We’re so excited she’s here. I’m sure

everybody’s clapping. We’re so excited. So welcome rhiann. Tell us a little bit about you, and thanks again for helping us today.

Rianne 2:39
You’re welcome. Thank you for having me. My name is Rhian. I’m married to Sir Erebus, and we have been part of this wonderful community since February of 2019

Little Kaninchen 2:58
That’s fabulous. So I mentioned the familial interest with what we’re going to be talking about today, and why would that be?

Rianne 3:07
Well, my husband is 100%

Greek, and he loves celebrating everything about his culture and his heritage, so we try to incorporate all the fun aspects of the ancient ancestors of Greece in our dynamic and actually just in our daily lives.

Little Kaninchen 3:32
That’s fabulous. So so she’s going to have a lot of things ideas for us, because the Greeks, they always mentioned Greco Roman. We kind of put those together. So Looper Kalia is one of those holidays where you can kind of take a little bit from the Greek you take a little bit from the Romans, Greco Roman, and then, but we always say everything traces back to the Greeks. So I agree. It all began with the Greeks. Yeah, so we’re good at we’re going to leave it there, and we’re going to jump right into the history of Looper Kalia. So let’s take a look back.

Lupercalia was an ancient Roman festival celebrated annually from February 13 through the 15th. It was dedicated to Fauci, the Roman god of fertility, as well as Romulus and Remus, the legendary founders of Rome. But unlike the cozy dinners and heart shaped chocolates we’ve currently associated with Valentine’s Day, Lupercalia

was a bit more what I say, primal.

This Roman celebration was deeply rooted in fertility, love and purification. The festival involved ritualistic practices that were often very erotic in nature, including the sacrifice of goats.

No goats will be hurt in this podcast.

It just for everybody’s information, but it was included sacrificing of goats and dogs, as well as a ceremonial run where youthful, virile men would strike women with strips of goat hide. And when you got hit with those strips of goat hide, everybody believed that that would bring you fertility. Kind of sounds silly, huh? But back then, that’s what they believed. You fast forward to the fifth century, when the new pope replaced luper collo with Saint Valentine’s Day. It’s an attempt to Christianize that overall celebration. They did that a lot back then he purposely left behind more spirited, erotic and physical elements of loop or call you over the centuries, the romantic aspects of Valentine’s Day grew into the known red roses, dark chocolate and love letters.

Rianne 5:56
Right? Valentine’s Day became about courtly love with less emphasis on fertility rituals. But if we look back, Lupercalia

was a celebration of ritual love and life’s more untamed aspects, like sensuality and fertility, and there’s something really appealing about the raw energy of the ancients and their practices, right? Yes,

and we can learn a lot from them. The ancient Greeks celebrated several deities associated with fertility. They were all about fertility, and we don’t think of fertility just as having children or reproductive things. It’s all about being productive in all areas of your lives, especially love and marriage. Well, who says we can’t combine both ancient and modern celebrations? The sexy secret is it absolutely can be done. We can learn a lot from our ancient ancestors. Appealing to our most base and carnal desires we have for each other will open up so many things for the two of you, you can have it all, love, romance and lots of lust for each other.

Little Kaninchen 7:24
Wow, we really can. And if we just pay attention to one another and bring in that awareness, it is a good thing. So Well, what if we revived Looper collate,

so if we combined it with Today’s Valentine’s Day, how would that look in this modern world? Could we take the energy of lupercal, yeah, and its playfulness, its wild, erotic side, and turn it into something fun and meaningful for today’s couples?

Rianne 7:59
Well, I think it could be relationship changing. It really could imagine a Valentine’s Day celebration where couples could engage in relationship building rituals that are less about, you know, the vanilla rituals of Valentine’s, Valentine’s cards, flowers and candy, lots of pressure and

about letting loose as an intimate, as an intimate partner, as an overall erotic experience. Well, how can we do this? I’m sure everyone is asking. The thing is, you bring your own ritual. You can have it all. It’s not difficult. You just start small, but just start all relationship building rituals must have lots and lots of communication. Don’t feel like you’re alone. We will talk about our experiences and give you a few ideas where to start and where to go. Your husband will be so surprised and excited about how much thought that you really put into this.

Little Kaninchen 9:18
Yeah, I think that is such a key to all of this is once you participate in a few of these holiday experiences, I think that is great, that you both start engaging and making these things special. You don’t have to do every single holiday that we post, but hit a few of them, and then all of a sudden it becomes almost a game between the husband and wife, or the two partners, where they produce something together, and then it’s even more special.

Rianne 9:49
Yes, you’re absolutely right. We really got to know each other very well. Some of the things that we we liked or always wanted to try.

but, you know, were afraid to ask, so to speak, and it was a game changer. My husband saw me in a completely different light, and he was so excited that I was that turned on by him, and saw him as such a sexual being, yes, and that’s the whole idea of of all these great little holidays we put together and and try to get people to get excited about Valentine’s Day by by turning it and twisting it, or any holiday. So, you know, like I said, we we are in the business of making people’s lives more fun.

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Speaking of fun, we’re going to talk about learn and embrace playful eroticism, having a couple’s understanding first, that’s what we’re talking about, is everything that is planned and done is in the spirit of fun and consent. We always talk about consent on everything. So it’s a spirit of fun, consent and intimacy. You want to make sure, and I’m not just talking sexual intimacy here. I’m talking all kinds of intimacy. So we learn about these holidays. You combine them, turn them both into what you really want. You take that vanilla, what we would call maybe a vanilla holiday, twist it into what you want. First thing is you use a sensual symbol, the use of symbols from lubricalia, such as goats, because we talked about the goats earlier and what their representation was, or maybe take Roman Greek deities like pan.

He was a god of fertility and wild nature. So we all heard a lot about pan and what pan did, and pan really got turned on by goats.

So, but that’s a whole nother podcast. So,

Rianne 12:47
yeah,

Little Kaninchen 12:48
so these little symbols really can add an erotic undertone to the atmosphere. You could create playful decor featuring these symbols or use them in private celebrations such as this Lupercalia in Valentine’s theme dinners or intimacy, like even a sexual encounter, it can be all themed around These symbols,

Rianne 13:13
yes, well, save the ghost.

Instead of the traditional Lupercalian

ritual of striking women with goat hides, well, why not make it a light hearted game? For instance, you can just look around your house. You may have a lot of different kinds of Fauci rugs, throws other types of material like that. Put them on your table, your bed or your floor. You can also incorporate playful spanking or gentle teasing using soft materials, things like a feather, satin ribbons, flowers and just be creative. You know, just use whatever you have around the house, even it’s all about what feels good for you, what you want to do. And for me, I like to make a list of things. When I was first starting to, you know, try to create some of these moments for my husband and I, I would have to write things down. I made a list of what felt good on my skin. And literally, I would walk around my house everywhere, even in the storeroom. You know, I have a storeroom full of holiday type things you would not you would be so surprised what you can find in your own home. However, if you are at a loss, why not go to a fabric store?

Or or a craft store, I was very pleasantly surprised by what I found. There’s so many fabrics, so many textures, and you know, you can just buy a little bit of that little bit of this, and just keep it on hand. Well, another thing that I did, I did speak to my husband, you know, about what I was wanting to create, and I had even sent him a mysterious or sexy note or invitation for us to go shopping together. And it was really just to brainstorm some ideas, but it was so much fun and actually really great foreplay. We went to hardware stores, fabric stores, even you know, like your local Lowe’s or Home Depot, to choose items that we could actually use in our little scene we’re trying to create in our home. And people would stop to ask if we needed help, and, you know, trying to tell them what we were looking for without saying what their intended purpose was.

But, I mean, it was, you know, we did that at the grocery store, hardware store, craft store, fabric store, and it was just really sexy, knowing that what we’re buying this stuff for, you know, but it’s totally vanilla. Everybody was, you know, helping us. Not a big deal what we purchased, but we were not going to use them in a regular way, just totally in a naughty way. So the the whole setup was, it was fun, it was erotic. It was a just a big game of foreplay, you know, out in plain sight, but only the two of us, new are naughty secret, and you know, like I said, use your heritage, as you know, as much as you can to incorporate that into your own, your own Lupercalia. And for us, we totally embrace that. We even have these Greek playing cards that have pottery, old pottery symbols on them from the ancient Greeks, and they have every kind of scene. So we would use just the playing cards, lay them out, and each of us would get to pick a couple that we would use in our, you know, our fun time. Some of them,

you know, were sexual scenes, some of them weren’t, but we each picked our own and it went from there. So that part was really fun. Just work on it together. Use your imagination, and it is really a bonding thing and experience like no other yes and, and if your husband is busy, busy, busy. I use Amazon so much I can get stuff primed if I don’t have time to go out, because I have the traveling husband as well. And sometimes, you know, I’m like, um, he tasks me with saying, you know, do you we have everything we need for whatever ritual, like kind of holiday thing we want to do, and just him participating and saying to me, communicating to me that, hey, I want you to make sure we have everything for This. You know, he bought a whole setup for our summer solstice last year, and that was a lot of fun. I didn’t have to do any of the shopping. And you know, you know me, I love to shop. I will shop 24/7, if you want me to. But he did it, and it was so nice. It was like, a different look at it, because usually he’s like, you know, if you want to participate in this holiday, or do this ritual for this holiday, then he’s like, please get that stuff together so we’ll have it. Just having a voice in it just makes a big difference. It gives you a glimpse into their mind, what they’re thinking, what you know, their hot buttons. And I love that. Me too. Me too. I was really excited, you know, to have him do the summer solstice one that we did last year. That was a lot of fun.

Little Kaninchen 19:29
Okay? And then we get into the next idea is the erotic storytelling and literature from Greek mythology, erotic tales from anything. I mean, you can even go into the Bible and read about the erotic tales, a lot of them, and some Bibles were taken out. But you can definitely Google Roman mythology, erotic Tales from the Bible. Those of you who don’t know the god of wine, he is Bacchus. He is also the god essential pleasures. You know.

All of these tales can lend an erotic atmosphere to your Valentine celebrations. The one thing I tell everybody, every couple Read, read, read, read, read, read, romantic, sensual stories all the time. You know those books that everybody laughs about, that they are, you know, erotica. It’s really fun to read those, to highlight them. I have them in my Kindle, or, I guess it’s on my Kindle, it’s my iPad, and I highlight certain things, and then I always pull those ideas for things like this. You can find actual romantic books that are the, I guess they’re basically based from ancient times. I have several of them that I’ve read, and they were really good. I love learning about all of this. Anyways, in those books, they do their own researches, so it’s good to use somebody else’s research and make it yours and do it within your little celebration that you’re doing. They always talk about aphrodisiacs and foods, they give you ideas and inspirations. So look up those authors that wrote the stories and poems from those ancient times. And the more you read, the more ideas you get, the more open you are to those ideas. And I always say, Read, read, read. So take your readings, take your findings from these stories, and like I said, you can Google any erotic tales from Greek mythology from the Bible, and make them your own.

Rianne 21:32
Yes, I absolutely agree with that. You have a good erotic story or book. You can take little passages and save those, send them to your husband, you know, or maybe

write it down and read it yourself to

your husband. I’m not very creative when it comes to thinking of romantic or even sensual type notes. But like you said, look it up there. I looked up love letters from ancient Greeks, Ancient Romans, and oh my gosh, those were extremely hot, the way, with words. And it was just so flowery, so romantic and very erotic, because the ancient Greeks, the ancient Romans, they were all about desire, and from the very beginning, that is their one of the absolute

roots of everything in the ancient civilization was desire and fertility. And fertility in the body doesn’t always mean a product of offspring. It also is defined by keywords such as creating, conceiving and producing. The Latin root word is fertilous, bearing in abundance or being fruitful. Anyone or anything can be fruitful. It’s just not always product of offspring. Now, Lupercalia was tied to fertility rituals, and so a more erotic twist on Valentine’s Day could involve focusing on building a fruitful sensual pleasure experience. Now this could be in the form of sexy massage, body painting, making body painting says wax play. This is where, doing some research online, they can give you all sorts of ideas, if you just don’t know where to start. We even did something.

We bought a massage table, and it is a multi purpose massage table. Yes, it is used for just your regular massage, but we’ve turned it into kind of a pleasure pad, because you can do body painting on the massage table, and even

if you focus on food and touch bloshing

Little Kaninchen 24:24
And well, splashing sound, sorry about

that splashing sound we could come up with. Hey, tell people what squashing actually is, because a lot of people probably don’t know.

Rianne 24:38
Well,

washing is using food in a sexual way. I mean, you can use food as an insertable if you would like, even if get as daring as using a piece of ginger, just do a lot of research.

Research, and it’s not for everyone, but hey, if you want to add a little extra, then then go for it. But I say research, communicate and consent is a is a big thing.

So just imagine chocolate and,

oh yeah, whipped cream, or other foods that are aphrodisiacs, like oysters, berries, pomegranates. And the thing about pomegranates, pomegranates are an ancient fruit. They’re even talking that the apple that Eve enticed Adam with was actually a pomegranate. So the pomegranates go way back. It’s a sexy food, for sure.

Little Kaninchen 25:51
Yes, and I keep hearing all of the great things that come from eating pomegranate lately.

Rianne 25:58
Yes, pomegranates are all around so you could have the sensual experience and be healthy.

There you go. It’s a win win all the way around. But you know, it’s celebrating the body and all its beauty build a fertile atmosphere for erotic experiences. One way you could do that, private rituals and role play. And you know, the sky’s the limit. You can keep it simple. You can build on do whatever it is that you want to do. But just start, you can design a private ritual role play sex scene where maybe you and your partner dress up an entire that evokes ancient Roman or Greco Roman themes. And one way of doing that, you can make your own or buy a toga incorporate gold and laurel wreaths, which symbolize victory and fertility, adding just a subtle eroticism. This is where Amazon can be your best friend if you want to purchase things already made on Amazon or just by looking it gives you ideas, and you may have a lot of that already at home.

I have a whole store room that, you know, I just keep something just in case, and that way it’s my just in case area. And if I want to cut it apart, reimagine, do whatever, I have those things there, like I had a whole lot of gold cloth that we used for something else, and I made kind of a king type sash and outfit for my husband, and I was more like a sexy Greek slave girl, and it was just just that little Bit. It created such a sensual atmosphere like the original celebration. And, you know, kind of really channeling some of the Greek deities, you know, like Dionysus. He was, you know, the god of wine and festivity and fertility and fun. And, of course, the worship of Pan he was all about wild I mean, just wild.

Yeah, yeah. He was a god of pleasure, but he was also the God of all experiences. So, you know, you want to experience everything, all all your feelings, and it’s, it’s a great time to do that. Well, another way is setting up a little tray of different types of food. You know, you can research some of the, you know, ancient foods, which pomegranate pops up all the time. There’s a lot of others, but also foods that are aphrodisiac in nature, and if you’re dressed up like, you know, kind of Greco Roman

type attire, very seductive, and feed each other, you know, if I’m like, you know, the the servant or the slave girl, and I’m feeding my husband because he’s the the Greek god or The Greek king, and you know, I’m feeding him, maybe, you know, he’ll suck on my fingers, or vice versa. It just leads to just so much sensuality and fun. It’s like you take off the blinders of being your proper public facing person, and it’s just you and your partner and just enjoying each other, experiencing everything. It’s very hot, and since most men are visual,

you know, maybe the main attraction could be a plush blanket or something.

Maybe.

In your living room or another room, or even in the stairwell, which provides a lot of fun type activities. Just use your house in ways that you’ve never used it before, and maybe on the on the blanket you if you’re daring enough you want to experiment with a variety of sex toys. Now’s the time to bring them out. And, you know, maybe you’ve had them for a while, dust them off, you know, clean them up and put on a little show for your husband. And maybe he wants to join in too and use them on you. And it’s, it’s very exciting, and just do some things, set things up that you don’t normally do, and just using different parts of your house makes it even more exciting. And what this does, what my husband has told me, it just gave him a glimpse into the way I think. And even more so, instead of just telling him, Well, I think I want this. I think I, you know, want that, I set this up. Maybe it’s a surprise. Maybe we both brainstormed on the whole thing, but he got a glimpse into what I’m thinking, what I like, in a way that just words can’t portray.

Little Kaninchen 31:27
Yeah, and both partners. If both partners are participating, you both get a little bit of what you want, and you would be surprised when you find out what your husband really is thinking, like, not the vanilla thoughts, but his real thinking of what really turns him on, what really and and you wouldn’t be that probably it’s not that deep and dark. Like a lot of men, what they’re desiring are very simple things, things that you don’t think of. And then he’ll throw you once in a while, with one that you know, that he wants to add in there, and just him being a part of it, whether it be being able to actually be a part of buying the items, or maybe him saying, I want to celebrate looper, Kalia and Valentine’s Day. I want to, I want to do that. Why don’t you make sure we have everything together and all think of some of the sexy things to do for it, you know, or, you know, you pick the dinner place, and then I’m gonna plan the fun afterwards. I mean, just having that little bit of touch within the holiday makes a big difference to us.

Rianne 32:43
Yes, it’s just a springboard for a lot of ideas, and it’s such a bonding experience. And you will find a lot of success with this, and you will be able to use it anytime you want. I just absolutely love to do these kinds of things,

Little Kaninchen 33:03
yeah? And setting the mood, setting the atmosphere. We’ll talk a little bit more about that by when we’re setting the mood and we’re talking mood, there’s music and atmosphere. Yeah? Music for the mood, for the more indulgent and sexual, sensual atmosphere. You can create a playlist of the music that you feel that’s indulgent gives you seductiveness. Also, we have found classical music with an Roman or ancient vibes. Think back to ancient times. What would they use to evoke the feelings of revelry and seduction? I always think about ancient chanting and instruments, musical instruments. I think about that harp sounds, harp harp music heavy. I mean, I when I was looking into this, I looked some of this stuff up, and it is actually very sick. Harp music is actually very sexy. And I was so surprised. I was like, oh wow. I’m like, you know when I’m listening to I’m like, oh yeah. I could totally see how this would work within a scene or even while you’re having dinner. It’s very, very

what is the word I want to use? It’s very, almost hypnotic. Is the word I want to use? Then they use flutes back then.

And that flute music very sexy. And you can just put Google sexy flute music, and it will come up with all kinds of good, good music. They would have used drums back then. And drums, you know, you can find all kinds of drum music that sounds super sexy, singing bowls that was very big back in that time,

they sound like a bell. And then they can sound very,

I don’t know, it gives you another ancient feeling. You can.

Find this music all put together

to where they have all these different ancient sounds and instruments that they use, but you know you can use any erotic tones or music modern or ancient

and achieve that feeling. You know your partner. You know yourself. You know what you both really like. But if you could find some ancient music, I think that helps a lot if you’re trying to actually do a scene or or something that seems like a good role play. Lighting is the other thing. Candles are always a way to set the mood. Now, you know, we have cats, and I’m always scared. You know, we have set our cats tail on fire having a romantic Valentine’s dinner. One time we were just married, I think it was probably like our maybe second or third wedding anniversary, and we were broke, so we bought steaks and we were gonna have like this fantastic dinner at home, very romantic. And, you know, we were just getting started. We had set the table. I had two tapered red candles, of course, very vanilla, very Valentine’s pressure, a lot of pressure, because I was like, I was making mistakes. And I, I probably wasn’t the cook. I was back now that I, you know, the back then I probably was not very good at it, and it was a lot of pressure, and we were just sitting down. Everything was great. You know, today, my cats go everywhere. But it was our very first pet, and her name was Mercedes, God bless her, and she jumped up on the table. And she never was allowed on the table. She jumped up on the table. Ran across it really fast, because she knew that she would be in trouble. She ran, and it caught her tail on fire. So we both jump up. We both jump up running to get the cat, because there is a cat on fire in the kitchen. Oh my.

And you could smell it burning. And so I hate to say it, but the smell of burnt hair and your steak, and it kind of ruined the whole thing. I think we might have went out for pizza afterwards or something.

It was, you know, and, and we ended up having to take her to the vet because she was burnt a little bit. So lessons learned, yeah, so like real candles. If you have pets, maybe they have such great candles now that looks so real, but they’re actually battery. I would just say, you know, buyer beware. You know, you know what you might end up with a cat or a dog or, you know, a candle getting chewed up, or something like that. So that was my little story. But you, you know, lighting candles, I always say, incorporate dark colors into your when you want it to be like romantic and ancient, deep reds, blacks, purples, colors of royalty. Use the scents because specific scents were very popular back in ancient times, and Jasmine, tuba, Rose gardenia, orange blossom. These are all called dirty white flowers, or lusty flowers. They literally have the same compounds in them as sweaty sex does. So you can look up dirty white flowers. And actually, what’s so funny is I love Jasmine and gardenia and orange blossom. Those are my those are my favorite perfumes. So it’s just funny is that they happen to be the dirty white flowers.

Rianne 38:35
Well, if you want to put a different twist on writing as well, if you’re married to a techie guy like I am. We have smart lights everywhere, and they can be different colors. They can go through a range of colors. They will change colors according to music or even other sounds, and it really adds to the whole experience, the whole environment of creating a sexy scene using lighting. So if you’re into that, it’s possible to do that too.

Little Kaninchen 39:16
Yeah, I could see dimming, you know, giving commands to dim the lights a little bit, or changing up the romantic lighting to different, like I said, even those deep reds, you know, that’s that’s very romantic.

Rianne 39:34
Yes, it is. It really is. Another thing too, along that line, is an incorporating symbolic gifts and a token is an item that serves as a visible or tangible representation, you know, of a fact, a quality or feeling and erotic gift or tokens. Those were very popular in ancient.

Times and ancient traditions of giving gifts, even to this day, going to another household, when we’re visiting Greece, it is customary to bring gifts or other symbolic tokens, and that’s a tradition that they still hold dear, near and dear now, but if you know, just do a little research, give each other some symbolic tokens of fertility or love that’s more directly related to the erotic could be luxurious lingerie, romantic oils or sexual items that you can use together, and that’s a lot of fun doing by each other. Gifts like that. I pick something that I I would like, or I would think my husband would like, and he would do the same for me. And it’s really exciting to buy those things, give them and use them on each other. Now maybe it can also that token or gift could be given after an experience, to just remind each other of the experience that we had, maybe a small statue or stone, or anything that Valentine like, or Lupercalia,

a goat heart Wolf, anything that’s representative of the ancient Romans, ancient Greek maybe even a small ribbon for them to keep until the next Valentine’s Day. There’s just so many things that you can do you blend some of the erotic undertones of Lupercalia with the more romantic focus of Valentine’s Day. Create intimate, celebratory atmosphere that’s fun, playful, but deeply connected to love and lust and mutual respect. They don’t have to be separate things. And what my husband has told me is that some of the things that I’ve done, you know, maybe surprised him with something or set up a little

something in the living room or elsewhere connected to a certain holiday, like Valentine’s Day. And it let out my, you know, my lust and my desire for him and I, I didn’t hold back, and he felt very honored and very respected.

I don’t know if all that makes sense, but that’s what he told me, that it really made him feel that I just fed in to that part of him, that a lot of times it has to stay quiet or dormant because he’s, you know, busy working or taking care of all these, all these things. But he definitely felt that level of lust and respect, and we were able to, you know, keep that going even in the middle of of working or being with family or friends, some of those symbols that we gave to each other we could keep

and bring with us in those other public or vanilla situations.

It’s, you know, honoring the spirit of both festivals. And I think that is a really good idea. My husband is 100% Greek, so of course, I love incorporating his heritage into our marriage and intimacy. Giving him a Greek token could be, you know, a card or sketch of arrows Cupid, which is the god of desire. And this is how serious the ancients really took their desire. Because in the beginning of all of Greek mythology there was Gaia, the earth, Tartarus, which is the underworld. Those are the two places. And then arrows, the god of desire. So they desire is in the foundation. They had the earth. They had the underworld. Okay, let’s get the God of desire here and enjoy ourselves. It was all about, you know, the sensual enjoyment. And so desire is at the foundation, at the beginning. So just embrace every part of that.

Little Kaninchen 44:42
Yeah, I totally agree. Everything goes back to the Greeks from the beginning and how they taught everybody how to embrace every part of their love, from the underworld to, you know, love, desire, embracing.

To your partner so important.

Rianne 45:03
So celebrating each other, celebrating your love, celebrating your love, it doesn’t have to be separate.

Little Kaninchen 45:10
No, it does not. And actually it just gives it another layer on top of what you already have. And these are just ideas on how to make your Valentine’s Day. Take that Looper Kalia and just add it in there a little bit, and you can really come up with some great ideas. Do a few minutes of homework. Let your partner know that you would like to, you know, make this a little bit more and get them involved if they want to be involved. And, you know, make a really great holiday out of it. There you have it. We’re bringing back the little bit of Looper Kalia to shake up your Valentine’s Day traditions. Who knew a festival of fertility and wildness could add such a spark to your modern celebration of love? Are you ready to make your Valentine’s Day a little more untamed? I know I am.

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Little Kaninchen 47:04
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