The Sexual Arts & Sexual Techniques
Within Married Dominance and submission, we do not just explore and experience BDSM and D/s, we also add some other ways to express sexuality within our method.
Sexual expression unfolds on two interconnected levels:
- Sexual Arts → the frameworks of meaning, philosophy, and creative expression (the “why” and the “vision”).
- Sexual Techniques → the practical skills and methods that bring those arts to life in the body (the “how” and the “practice”).
Together, they form a balance of inspiration and action, artistry and craft.
The 14 Sexual Arts
- Tantra – Sacred union through breath, energy, and presence.
- Taoist Sexual Practices – Circulating sexual energy for vitality and spiritual flow.
- Kama Sutra – Erotic lifestyle centered on positioning, sensual living, and love as art.
- BDSM / D|s-M – Structured power exchange of Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism.
- Sexual Magik – Intimacy practiced as ritual and spellcraft, where climax becomes transformation and intention.
- Erotic Theater – Storytelling, archetypes, costumes, and performance on an erotic stage.
- Karezza – A late 19th-century practice of prolonged, non-ejaculatory intercourse and mutual affection, shifting the focus away from climax and toward gentle, sustained physical and emotional closeness.
- Aphrodisiac & Sensual Alchemy – Heightening arousal with food, scent, sound, and texture.
- Erotic Dance & Movement – Using the body rhythmically (striptease, lap dance, flow) as living seduction.
- Art of Fetish – Exploring symbolic objects, attire, or focus points (heels, leather, lingerie) as erotic triggers.
- Sensate Focus – A sex therapy technique where couples reconnect with sensation through structured, progressive stages of non-demand touch, reducing pressure and deepening awareness.
- Roleplay & Fantasy – Stepping into imagined worlds, scenarios, or characters to ignite new layers of desire and surrender.
- Mutual Masturbation – Partners stimulating themselves or each other manually without intercourse, either side by side or while watching one another.
- Exhibitionism & Voyeurism – Enjoyment derived from being watched during a sexual act (exhibitionism) or watching others (voyeurism). For couples, this can involve private scenarios like using mirrors, or more public and risky settings.
The 14 Sexual Techniques
- Pelvic Floor (PV Muscle) Control – Contracting and releasing muscles to intensify penetration, sensation, and orgasm.
- Vaginal Lengthening & Cervical Tenting – The body’s natural expansion during arousal, trained for deeper intimacy.
- Thrust Rhythms – Altering speed, depth, and patterns of thrusting to create different erotic effects.
- Sexual Positioning – Using specific poses to enhance pleasure, intimacy, and the power dynamic between partners.
- Erotic Massage – Touching, kneading, and caressing the body with oils or textures to awaken arousal.
- Oral Techniques – Using the lips, tongue, and breath for sexual worship and stimulation.
- Dirty / Erotic Talking – Using voice, words, and tone to direct, arouse, and deepen connection.
- Seduction Moves – Gestures, looks, teasing, and denial that build anticipation and magnetism.
- Sex Toys & Tools – Vibrators, plugs, cuffs, dildos, and other implements to expand stimulation and play.
- Erogenous Zones Play – Stimulating sensitive areas (neck, nipples, thighs, anus, etc.) with pressure and variation.
- Bondage – Restricting movement with rope, cuffs, or restraints to heighten surrender and control.
- Impact Play – Spanking, flogging, paddling, or striking in controlled rhythm and intensity.
- Edging / Surfing – Holding back climax repeatedly to build intensity and prolong arousal.
- Breath Control / Sacred Breath – Coordinating breathing to sync arousal, calm, or heighten intensity.
Erotic Fusion ✨
When Arts and Techniques are combined, intimacy transforms into Erotic Fusion — where philosophy meets practice, and desire becomes both meaningful and embodied. The Arts provide the atmosphere, devotion, and story (the why), while the Techniques deliver the touch, rhythm, and physical skill (the how). Together, they create experiences that are more than sex: they become art, ritual, and transformative connection.
