The Six Senses Sexual Ritual: BDSM Day
— A D|s-M Celebration for BDSM Day, July 24th —
Inspired by the sacred intimacy teachings of subMrs®, husDOM®, and MarriagesSexiestSecret™
Created by L.K. and Mr. Fox — the originators of the D|s-M movement, the first structured system for integrating BDSM into traditional marriage, launched in 2012.
📖 What is BDSM?
BDSM is an acronym that encompasses a wide range of erotic practices rooted in power exchange, sensation, and consent:
- Bondage – physical restraint for arousal, surrender, or stillness
- Discipline – the use of rules, structure, and corrective rituals
- D/s (Dominance and Submission) – consensual power exchange, where one partner leads and the other yields
- S/M (Sadism and Masochism) – consensual giving or receiving of pain, intensity, or emotional edge for erotic or psychological satisfaction
For more on the deeper emotional and symbolic meanings behind each of these, visit the foundational guides at subMrs®and husDOM®. Join our Discord Communities that include couple’s monthly ideas, inspirations, and exercises.
📜 Historical Origins of BDSM & the Birth of D|s-M
BDSM’s essence, the eroticism of control, surrender, and structured sensation, has existed throughout human history. Ancient Tantric practices, Roman flagellation rituals, and early mystic traditions all echo elements of what we now call BDSM.
Modern BDSM began to take form in the 20th century within underground leather and kink communities, but it remained largely hidden and misunderstood. Historically, it has been used by singles who use the smoke and mirrors of mystery to hide even some unhealthy and unsafe practices.
That changed in 2012, when L.K. and Mr. Fox created a new paradigm:
D|s-M — Dominance and submission in Marriage
Through their pioneering platforms — subMrs® for submissive wives, and husDOM® for married Dominants — they revealed a revolutionary truth: that BDSM, when practiced through the lens of intentional monogamy, can become a path of sacred sexuality, devotion, along with personal and relationship total transformation.
This method is now curated and celebrated within the private community at MarriagesSexiestSecret™, subMrs®, and husDOM®.
🖋️ “We turned bondage into a bond. Ritual into romance. Obedience into offering.” — L.K.
🎉 BDSM Day — July 24th (24/7)
BDSM Day is celebrated annually on July 24th — chosen to reflect the idea of 24/7 power exchange, a sacred symbol for couples who live or honor full-time D/s dynamics.
This ritual was designed as a devotional experience for that day: a private observance where couples explore each letter of BDSM through touch, breath, obedience, and erotic presence.
Use this ceremony to re-dedicate your roles and rekindle your power exchange with intentionality and intimacy.
🧭 Overview of the Ritual
- Setting: Private, clean, dimly lit space, your “Fox’s Den” or “Sanctum”
- Mood: Sensual playlist, candles, essential oils, or incense
- Tools: Rope, cuffs, blindfold, paddle, crop, collar, feather, diary, and journal (optional)
- Duration: 60–90 minutes
- Purpose: To embody each letter of B.D.S.M. as a lived, symbolic act of love and erotic energy
🔠 The Six Letters, Six Sensations
1. 🪢 B is for Bondage – The Art of Surrendering the Body
Symbol: Stillness
Exercise: The submissive is bound (rope, cuffs, or silk scarf) and laid out for display. The Dominant circles them, using only breath and eyes for one minute. Putting his hand on her chest, calming into stillness, breathing in sync.
Intention: The submissive experiences complete surrender. The Dominant holds the weight of responsibility and reverence.
Words to whisper: “You are mine to hold, mine to display, mine to protect.”
More bondage rituals at subMrs® →
2. 🎓 D is for Discipline – The Ritual of Correction and Precision
Symbol: Posture
Exercise: The submissive is instructed to hold a specific pose (e.g., kneel, thighs open, back arched). They must maintain it while responding only with “Yes, Sir.” The Dominant can inspect and ask questions, reminding her to stay still in each posture with a tap or slap.
Intention: Builds obedience, presence, and sensual stillness.
subMrs Optional mantra: “My body listens, hears your commands, and is hungry for you.
Explore discipline techniques at husDOM® →
3. 👑 D is for Dominance – The Act of Leading and Owning
Symbol: Command
Exercise: The Dominant gives three deliberate erotic commands during the scene/ritual (e.g., “Remove your clothing,” “Open your mouth,” “Beg for permission”).
Intention: Establishes clarity, control, and erotic authority.
Pro Tip: Give each command with breath, stillness, and eye contact.
Learn the Art of Giving Commands →
4. 🦋 S is for Submission – The Gift of Willingly Falling
Symbol: Offering
Exercise: The submissive offers something personal, their body, their mouth, a confession, or a fantasy, laid at the Dominant’s feet. The Dominant accepts or withholds with verbal explanation.
Intention: Deepens surrender and devotion.
subMrs Optional phrase: “Everything I am, every part of my body I offer to you.”
Practice submission as a sacred offering →
5. 🩸 S is for Sadism – The Alchemy of Intensity into Arousal
Symbol: Sting
Exercise: The Dominant delivers controlled stimulation through spank, scratch, pinch, paddle, feather, along with edge-play techniques.
Scale: Use a 1–10 system to track intensity. Mix in soft kisses or praise after each impact.
Intention: To transform intensity into erotic presence and arousal.
Tools of Sadistic Arousal →
6. 🫀 M is for Masochism – The Sensual Relationship with Suffering
Symbol: Edge
Exercise: The submissive names something they wish to release (e.g., fear, guilt, control). The Dominant challenges them with a sensual edge (e.g., holding position, orgasm denial, mental endurance).
Intention: To embrace the edge and turn it into erotic healing.
Aftercare: Blanket, water, stroking, affirmations, or dairy/journaling.
Learn the importance of aftercare →
🗝️ Closing Ritual: “I See You. I Claim You.”
- Dominant speaks:
“I see your body. I see your will. I see your offering. I claim you, again.” - submissive responds:
“I am yours, see me. Thank you for using me, loving me.”
Close with shared aftercare, or the Dominant’s final command:
“Surrender and fall asleep,” or “Fall into me and share my bed.”
🔥 Final Note — A Sacred Devotion
This isn’t just a sensual scene. It’s a spiritual ceremony.
A ritual of reverence. A re-dedication of roles. A celebration of erotic purpose.
To those in the D|s-M lifestyle, July 24th becomes more than a calendar date; it becomes an anniversary of surrender.
Let this be your tradition, your holiday to celebrate your dynamic
Let this be your vow, your command, your obedience
Let this be the day you Dominate, surrender, or just fall… deeper.
