Total Body Oral Sex | Kiss, Lick, Suck, Blow, and Bite the Erogenous Zones
I want to suck… your……. blood, but first, I must kiss, lick, suck, and blow you before I can give you a satisfying bite! I bet nobody’s EVER heard a vampire say. I don’t think vampires ask for consent, but you always should BEFORE biting into your partner. In total body oral sex, where do you kiss, lick, suck, blow, and bite your mate? Where are your partner’s erogenous zones? Which technique feels best in what areas? We all need reminders to become kissers, lickers, suckers, blowers, and biters. We must acquire the skill and talent to give our partners a “TOTAL BODY ORAL SEX” experience. This oral play can be taken two ways: softer and sensual or more AGGRESSIVE and EDGY. You could think of this as the difference between a “love bite and a hickey” or “making love and f*cking.
Cute Bite, Lector
Have you ever wanted to sink your teeth into someone before, during, or after sex? Even better, do you like being bitten? Odaxelagnia is someone having feelings of sexual arousal through biting or being bitten. Odaxelagnia is considered a mild form of sadomasochism. Researchers have found that nearly half of the people surveyed have experienced sexual arousal from biting. You’re NOT alone!
The movie poster for Silence of the Lambs eerily features Clarice’s face, her mouth covered by a moth. It is a death’s head moth, so named because it has what appears to be a skull on its back. It’s the kind of moth that obsesses serial killer Buffalo Bill.
The urge to taste or bite is an evolutionary side effect known as “cute aggression.” Psychologically, it’s not about literally wanting to eat a partner like your Hannibal Lector, “A census taker once tried to test me. I ate his liver with some fava beans and a nice chianti…” ( Make sure to end the quote with the infamous sucking/slurping sound. )
It’s more like fulfilling your need to aggressively lick, bite, squeeze, and even pinch someone based on experiencing affection towards them due to overpowering positive emotion.
The positive emotion, “Dimorphous Expression,” is at the root of the bite of these crazy contradictory feelings you’re having. Dimorphous expression is when you feel overwhelmed with love and joy towards a “cute thing,” urging you to lick, suck and bite down on said “cute thing,” showing your aggressive expression of affection. This happens not only in humans but in the animal kingdom. I am sure you’ve seen those shows where the lions mate while licking and biting. ROAR!!!
The physical pain caused by biting releases a rush of endorphins and sends blood to the genitals, producing more robust and intense orgasms.
Erogenous Zones
There are certain areas called erogenous zones on the body. Erogenous zones are thought to contain many nerve bundles, making them sensitive to stimulation. These areas are better to kiss, lick, suck, blow and bite. The sensitivity of these areas can ease them into play, turning them on or even making them orgasm! Stimulating these areas will not only arouse you and your partner and enhance your sexual foreplay, but it can actually relax and even promote the blood flow of your partner. Every person responds differently to stimulation in these areas. You will want to explore the body before a full oral play or scene.
Devil in the Details
We all know that the DEVIL IS IN THE DETAILS. When thinking about oral play, the details are timing, mood, type of stimulation, and what part of the body you are working with. You are looking for the parts or zones of the body that send sex signals to the brain. Ensure you notice which ones your partner’s brain or naughty bits respond best. Learning your partner’s skin’s tolerance will help you decide how much or how hard to kiss, lick, suck, blow, and bite them. Think about past play. Did they bruise easily, or can they take a little more bite?
You can check the intensity by doing verbal check-ins with your partner by asking for a 1-10 tolerance number. The response from your partner may be accompanied by physical moisture or eliciting a sexy “MOAN” from your partner. Are you new to biting? I suggest starting with the areas that are thicker with skin and tissue.
Timing,
Time of the month, for women, can affect their responses to any sensations. Their sensitivity can change during and around “shark week” or their monthly cycle. I encourage the male partner to learn their female partner’s cycles, menstrual cycles, and pre and post-menopausal. Yes, mid-life women have cycles! Knowing your partner’s timing can be used to your advantage. Since our method talks about SCHEDULING play and scenes, we want you to have the most successful, good-timed experiences.
Also, talking about timing, make sure you have scheduled enough time so there is no rush to your play. Timing is everything or a good part of a successful play.
Mood:
Setting the mood starts way before any experiences happen. The brain is the LARGEST sex organ in the body! So, tantalize your partner’s mind before starting with the body. You do this by sending images and giving them a taste of what they are in for later. Mood can also be set with a good atmosphere. Ensure your playroom or area is not messy, has a suitable temperature, and has proper lighting. You can even add some music.
How Stimulating!
Pressure, Tolerance, and Oral Techniques
What type of stimulation do I use? How much pressure? A Kiss is a pillowed pressure, Licking is slippery pressure, and sucking is a suction type of pressure. Blowing is a cooling or heating type of stimulation.
Biting has different pressures with varied stimulation and timing—getting these just right leads to the best kind of BITE! Here are a few examples of biting techniques: We will start with the lightest and work our way to the MOST PRESSURE!
Buttery Nibble: You want to wet your erogenous area with saliva, then softly nibble the area and rotate licks. Blow on the area for a little extra chill!
Dragging Beaver: This technique is meant to drag an “O” from your partner. Use the appropriate pressure as you pull your bottom lip over your bottom teeth, leaving your top teeth only to scrape across the skin.
Bottoms Up: This is the opposite method of dragging the beaver. This time, pull your lips over your top teeth, leaving your bottom teeth out to scratch or graze the skin on the erogenous zone of your choice.
Grandma: This toothless bite, you’re just using your lips, pulling them over your teeth. It’s kind of like the velveteen rabbit blow job technique. Do this bite and let up, then repeat as long as they beg for more.
Slow Ride: Take it easy… This is a building pressure with constant medium bite with teeth. Take your time building the pressure. DO NOT GET TO HARD unless they ask for “MORE!”.
Cold Nips: These are quick nips, sharp and edgy. Use these as warnings and testing.
Make’um Sing:
Don’t forget to use your fingers and add a sex toy or tool to make the perfect combination to give your partner oral ecstasy. Vibrating toys of all types are very useful depending on the amount of area you are stimulating. I suggest the magic wand for larger areas, the Zumio for small areas, and any vibrator in between. Add additional stimulation like a feather for a tickle, a scratch from a vampire glove, or a Wartenburg wheel poke. Learning to use oral and tactile skills, along with toys, you’ll play your partner like a musical instrument. Sit back and listen to them sing!
Area of Body:
Remember the area of your partner’s body where you may leave your mark behind. Does your partner work in an office where they must keep a professional appearance? Check with your partner about future doctor appointments. Nothing is worse than going to the gynecologist with a big love bite inside your thigh. Maybe there is an area agreed on where you both want a “mark of ownership.” Plan ahead !!!
Building Your Bite
Kissing, Licking, Sucking, Blowing, and BITING, OH MY! Building YOUR bite is important to giving the BEST TOTAL BODY ORAL SEX! Building your bite is the same as readying your partner’s skin to be bit! You want to seduce the skin and build anticipation while f*cking the mind. Use your five senses to make them want your bite with pretty yet dirty words. You can start by rubbing the area, then rotate kissing and licking. Move on to sucking and nibbling; add a little spank. The skin in most areas will show pink, and the tissue may swell. It will get hot, and you can add some blowing …. to add a chill before you ever decide to bite!
Zones, Inspiration, and Tools
Below are the areas you can pleasure orally. Keep in mind there are so many more areas that tacitly can be touched, rubbed, pinched, poked, vibrated., and tickled. We will start at the top and work our way down…… YUM! The biggest sex organ is the BRAIN! So, start at the top by turning on your partner’s brain. Make sure to verbally assault your partner with words of relaxation that will put them in the right mind space and send feel-good hormones through their system.
Mouth: Let’s start with the “DP” Zone, Dual Pleasure; your mouth … You dirty girls, what did you think I would say! The lips, teeth, and tongue are great sensation tools used by the giver and the receiver, dual pleasure when stimulating the mouth or other parts of the body! The mouth has the power to begin the endorphin rushes through the body. Kissing is the most underrated intimacy and can be a layering experience. Lips have nerves close to the surface, great to trace, lick with the tongue and then suck and nibble. Even sometimes, a bite on the lip is HOT! A good-smelling, clean mouth is SEXY! Givers and receivers use spearmint or cinnamon lip balm, gum, drops, or candy to add another layer of sensation.
Ears: The ears, the tip-top to the lower lobe, are full of nerve endings and are one of the most sensitive erogenous zones in the body. Kissing behind, tracing and nibbling the outer shell, tugging on the lobes, and whispering dirty girl prayers (dirty talk) inside the ear is a triple slam dunk! Receivers wear small hoops, and your partner can use their mouth/lips to pull and tug on them for more intense sensations!
Neck/Shoulder: Going down the erogenous highway, we are moving past the ears and to the neck and shoulder; these are very popular erogenous zones. The neck, the nape, the jawline, and the “vampire triangle.” I am sure you’ve noticed vampires like to bite the neck, well, the PG-14 sparkling ones. Use the triangle Kissing, licking, lapping, sucking, and biting in rotation. We will discuss the rated R & X vampires when we get to the groan: YUMMY!
Breasts/Nipples: Boobies! The breasts and nipples are one of a female’s most fun erogenous zones. The fact they have a lot of nerve endings, particularly the areolas, the skin around the nipples, is tied to the sensations in the genitals. You have probably heard of the electric connection some women feel when their nipples are stimulated; they feel it in their clitoris. It is very important to figure out the best timing with breast and nipple play because women vary widely in the sensitivity of their nipples at different times of their monthly cycle. Some women are too sensitive to enjoy any sensation, while others like rougher play, like a purple nurple, during that time of the month! Nipple toys and tools include nipple clamps, rings, and weights.
Armpits/Side torso: Your inner arms, armpits, and side torso, if stimulated with the right touch, kiss, lick, suck, and or bite, can tingle, tickle and gloriously shutter you out of your skin. Givers slowly increase stimulation in these areas. Discover your partner’s tickle responses in a body exploration scene. Can you feel the chill?
Wrist/Hand/Fingers: Starting with the wrist, the pulse desires a thumb stroking and being kissed, licked, sucked, and bitten. This part of the body loves to look innocent like an angel, yet loves to be stroked and choked with applied pressure like a dirty girl! The wrists adore a bondage. Whether using a rope or leather cuff, the delicate skin of the inner wrist can build the heat and lead a couple toward an extreme pleasure experience.
The hands HOLD a couple of really great erogenous zones. The palms are especially sensitive to light kissing and licking. First, though, start at the back of the hand and kiss it; this is a LOST art and very romantic. At the same time, kissing the back of the hand, start stimulating the palm with a stroking. Then turn the hand, kiss, lick, suck, and bite the palm. Put pressure at the base of the thumb, releasing endorphins that will relax the body. Finish your partner off with slowing kissing, licking, and sucking the fingers, one by one will make them feel that direct line to their naughty bits.
Lower abdomen/Lower back: Kiss, lick, suck, and bite your way down the spine to the areas under the waistline in the front and or back of the body can put your partner in the sexual zone. On the front of the body, the belly button and lower abdomen are your treasure trail or trail to the treasure. Give them temptation in these areas. Wearing a body chain or a belly button piercing adds to the fun! The small of the back, the lumbar region, and the crease between the cheeks have incredible sexual sensations. The lateral lumbar indentation, the “Dimples of Venus,“ is named after the goddess of beauty, a delicate and vulnerable body part. Not everyone has them; if you do, your mother passed them down. THANKS MUM! However, they can be painful for people with sacral joint issues, so I would caution against rubbing them, BUTT… they love to be worshipped, as does the goddess with kisses, licks, sucks and bites. That area also likes to be scratched, tickled with feathers, and lightly rolled with a stone face roller.
Genitalia Region:
These are just the erogenous genital areas that can be kissed, licked, sucked, blown and bitten. There’s so much to these areas; they get their own “HEADING.”
Between the Cheeks: The bum, its cheeks and its hole, aka the anus, and that little landing strip of thin skin known as the perineum. Both sexes have these areas to kiss, lick, suck, blow and bite! Adding a little lube when dealing with the rosebud is always good.
Warning: there are hazards associated with orally pleasing between the cheeks. You can get risks of STIs, bacterial viral, and parasitic infections by ingesting even trace amounts of a partner’s feces. Make sure your partner is clean and or cleaned out. You can even use a dental dam to form a barrier between the tongue and the anus. DO NOT rim an anus if there are sores, warts, lesions, or bleeding—one last reminder: do not rim someone with a cold sore. No one likes or wants a case of herpes.
The Bum, the butt cheeks. The bum is a great beginner’s and advanced oral erogenous area. After a good spanking is an excellent time for an incredible rotation of Kiss, Lick, Suck, Blow, and a GOOD BITE on the bum!
The Anus, add some oral to your anal pucker. This part of the body has lots of nerve endings. Rimming during sex has become very popular. Rimming’s official name is analingus; the slang term is “rim job.” This oral sex act is a technique in which you use your mouth to stimulate your partner’s anus. That would be interesting if you could toss your own salad, right?! (Again, another term for rimming.)
Kiss, lick, suck, blow, and even nibble! Add flavored or temperate lubes, lotions, and anal vibes to your anal oral experience. It’s double your pleasure to stimulate another erogenous zone while rimming the anus! It’s like adding ranch dressing to your salad! HA! HA!
The Perineum; I am cumming in for landing on the little strip of skin between the anus and genitals. hy this is a YUMMY sensitive area because it houses the pudendal nerve. This is the major nerve in your pelvis. This nerve controls the movement of your anal and urethral muscles. It provides sensory information regarding touch, pain, pleasure, and temperature. Usually, most only stroke or massage this area, but adding oral pleasure can make your partner take off and float.
Female: Erogenous zones we can orally please are the clitoris and the labia majora & minora. We all know the clitoris is the exterior numb of flesh that contains a bundle of nerves and the “easy button” to a quick orgasm. The clit loves to be kissed, licked, sucked and bitten! Mix up the pressures and rotation, and they will love you for it. An increase in blood flow occurs to the female genitalia during sexual intercourse. This increase in blood flow often results in the labia becoming swollen and engorged as part of the sexual arousal process.
The labia majora are the large, outer fleshy tissue folds enclosing and protecting the other external genital organs. They are the lips covered with pubic hair. The labia majora contain sweat and sebaceous glands, which produce lubricating secretions. These lips luv to be strummed like a guitar, pulled open but then let shut. You can use your tongue on this area, running it along its seam.
The labia minora are located under the labia majora, aiding us in lubrication and arousal. These skin folds protect the opening of the urethra and the vagina. They begin at your clitoris and end under the opening of your vagina. These inner lips like to be traced; add a heat or cold balm or gel. Tug on them and move the tissue in different directions as you stimulate another unrelated erogenous zone, sending your partner into a sensory overload.
Male: One of the men’s most erogenous zones is on the glans, aka the head of the penis. The frenulum, the underside skin where the shaft and the head meet, or the foreskin (for uncircumcised men). This is the “clit” for the man. There are a lot of nerves in this area. Do not be harsh with your strokes unless he is begging for it! This area enjoys kisses, licks, and sucks. You can use hot or cool gel or balms; BLOW his mind by blowing on the area!
Last but not least, the often forgotten, the scrotum. DO. NOT. FORGET- THE- BALL-SACK! The ball sack is the male version of the labia. Some men’s testicles are sensitive; be careful. So, treat them to a scrotum oral worship. Picture them as two hard diamonds in a velvet pouch. Giving your partner a scrotum oral massage will increase his blood flow and relieve his stress. You need to support those hard diamonds, so cup them. You can heat up a washcloth and wrap his sack in a warm kiss. Remove the cloth, kiss him, and lick him where the scrotum and the body connect. Rotate blowing air, giving him the most delightful CHILL up his spine! Tug the skin and nibble the scrotal raphe, the seam up the middle of the scrotum.
Inner thighs & groin: The inner thighs are “the highways to the loveshack.” They can be especially sensitive. Try using a light touch along this area, especially as you move toward the genitals, which is often incredibly pleasurable for the receiver. The thigh crease or groin is where the thigh meets the torso/pubic area. Using lips and nibbling in this area feels better than eating the best chicken wings!!
Behind the knee: It’s not where you usually think about being an erogenous zone. This area could be ticklish but has lots of nerves, so it loves to be orally pleased. Your male partner can even put his penis behind the bend of your knee and pleasure himself! Have fun with it!
Toes & Feet: Let’s talk “Shrimping Piggies,” oink … oink! Toe sucking, also known as shrimping, is the act of oral sex with the toes. Toes are highly sensitive, and when stimulated correctly, it turns into erotic pleasure. Toe sucking is known as foot worship in Dominance and submission power dynamics. This can be erotic play or used in humiliation. Go shrimping, kissing, licking, sucking, blow & bite the piggies.
The erogenous zones in the feet, specifically the arches, have pleasure pressure points that make you happier, more relaxed, and turned on. There is much pleasure to be had by having your partner kiss, lick, suck, blow, and BITE the arches of your feet. It’s personally one of my favorites!
After Bite
Give your partner some aftercare after kissing, licking, sucking, blowing, and biting. Most times, a little arnica cream takes care of the skin tissue. Did your sucking get out of hand and leave a hickey behind? Use a cool spoon, NOT FROZEN, but a cool spoon. Press it on the hickey on a 15-minute rotation. You don’t want your body part stuck like in A Christmas Story, Flick, acting on a triple-dog dare, stuck his tongue to the school’s frozen flagpole. You’ll likely have to use some tattoo concealer in the morning. If you have a really fresh BITE, clean it with warm water and soap. Apply Neosporin if needed. If you look like you went to bed with Hannibal, you might think about your life decisions! ;0)
We will end with a great quote.
( While he has someone for dinner, please make sure to KISS, LICK, SUCK, BLOW, and then BITE in the correct zones! )
“I Do Wish We Could Chat Longer, But I’m Having An Old Friend For Dinner.” -Hannibal
