The Art of Thrusting Techniques in D|s-M | Secret Guide
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Thrusting isn’t just physical motion; it’s an art form. When practiced intentionally, each style of thrusting can create a unique rhythm, sensation, and psychological effect on the submissive partner. For the Dominant, thrusting becomes both a tool of control and a way of reading and guiding the subMrs’s body. For the submissive, each change in motion can feel like a new language being spoken through her body. She also has a role to play—subtle shifts in her hips, arching, or tightening muscles can alter the sensation for both of them. Together, Dom and sub create a rhythm, each contributing to the pleasure and the flow. The best advice for couples is to explore different approaches together and openly share what feels right and what doesn’t. Once you discover your shared rhythm, thrusting transforms into a powerful tool that deepens intimacy and enhances every scene.
Notes: Some of these thrusting practices echo ancient traditions. Deep & Slow and Circular Thrusts are described in Tantric texts from India, while staggered rhythms and controlled pacing appear in Taoist sexual cultivation practices from China. In ancient times, women were often guided in how to use their bodies during lovemaking, taught to move with a kind of sorcery that made men believe they were magical, guaranteeing they would return again and again. These historical parallels demonstrate that the art of thrusting has long been recognized as more than physical; it is also energetic and spiritual.
1. Deep & Slow Thrusts
How to do it: Drive in fully, pressing until maximum depth is reached, and hold there. Slowly withdraw, savoring each inch of movement, then repeat with a steady, deliberate pace.
How it feels for the subMrs: Creates a sense of being claimed fully; presses against deeper spots; emotionally grounding and intimate. She may feel stretched open, filled, and profoundly owned with every stroke.
D|s-M Idea: Have her maintain eye contact or wear her collar, reinforcing ownership and presence.
2. Shallow, Teasing Thrusts
How to do it: Enter only with the tip or first few inches, remaining near the entrance. Use shallow thrusts, combined with grinding motions against her clitoris and inner lips, to heighten frustration.
How it feels for the subMrs: Builds intense craving; heightens clitoral stimulation while denying fullness; makes her beg for more. The light friction and denial can make her body quiver in frustration, pulling her deeper into submission.
D|s-M Idea: Pair with commands like “Count them” or “Beg for more,” making it a mental exercise in surrender.
3. Rapid & Relentless Thrusts
How to do it: Thrust quickly with consistent rhythm, holding her hips, hair, or throat for control. Keep the pace unyielding to overwhelm her senses.
How it feels for the subMrs: Overwhelms senses; can trigger G-spot orgasms; feels like being taken. The relentless pace can leave her breathless, lost in sensation, and fully at his mercy.
D|s-M Idea: Use spanking or slapping in rhythm, turning thrusting into a full-body domination experience.
4. Stop & Command
How to do it: Thrust deeply, then freeze in place. Hold still inside her while giving commands such as “Don’t move,” “Ask for it,” or “Beg me.” Only resume when she obeys.
How it feels for the subMrs: Creates suspense and desperation; every resumed thrust becomes a reward. The stillness heightens awareness of being filled, making the next thrust feel like a gift she must earn.
D|s-M Idea: Blindfold or bind wrists, intensifying surrender while awaiting permission.
5. Circular or Grinding Thrusts
How to do it: Instead of an in-and-out motion, rotate the hips in circles or grind down against her. “Stir” as though painting her inner walls, stimulating areas in new ways.
How it feels for the subMrs: Stimulates multiple zones; sensual and intoxicating. The rolling motion can feel deeply connective, massaging her inside while pressing against sensitive areas.
D|s-M Idea: Whisper affirmations or praise, making it devotional as well as erotic.
6. Staggered Rhythm
How to do it: Mix short, shallow thrusts with long, deep ones. For example, two shallow strokes followed by one deep stroke. Vary the rhythm to keep her body guessing.
How it feels for the subMrs: Builds anticipation; keeps her guessing; heightens erotic tension. The unpredictability teases her body and mind, drawing her into a state of suspense and eager surrender.
D|s-M Idea: Use as training, control moans during shallow thrusts, release them on the deep ones.
7. Pelvic Slam & Hold
How to do it: Thrust forcefully to the deepest point, then hold fully inside, pinning her hips with yours. Grind down while staying buried to maximize pressure.
How it feels for the subMrs: Raw, forceful, primal; feels claimed and possessed. The weight of being pinned and filled can ignite both fear and bliss, pulling her into a primal surrender.
D|s-M Idea: Combine with hair pulling or primal commands, emphasizing ownership.
8. Withdrawal & Return
How to do it: Pull out until only the tip remains, pause, and then thrust fully back in with power. Repeat, varying the speed to enhance anticipation.
How it feels for the subMrs: Creates emptiness and sudden fullness; emotionally reinforces ownership. Each return feels like being taken anew, shocking her body with a flood of sensation and reinforcing his control.
D|s-M Idea: Have her repeat phrases like “I am yours” with each thrust.
Submissive Movement & Positioning
The sub can also influence thrusting by angling her hips, arching her back, tightening her PC muscles, or rolling her pelvis. Placing a pillow beneath her hips, draping her legs over her shoulders, or straddling with a circular motion changes the sensation for both. Thrusting becomes a shared rhythm rather than a one-sided act.
D|s-M Note: She should always ask permission, “Sir, may I move my body for you?”, making her contribution part of her obedience.
Dominant Command Option: Sir may direct her: “Meet me halfway” or “Roll your hips for me,” ensuring her movements remain his command.
Thrusting as Primer
Thrusting can also be used as a primer before a larger D/s scene. In the days leading up, Sir may bend her over furniture, delivering a thrusting technique of his choosing, or allowing her to request one. No climaxing for either partner. These short encounters build anticipation, softening her mind. On scene day, foreplay with deliberate thrusting primes her body with engorgement, lubrication, and surrender.
Weekly Primer Outline:
- Days 1–2: Short thrusting session, one technique, a few strokes.
- Days 3–4: Repeat in a new location, allowing her to request the method.
- Days 5–6: Longer sessions with a tool and testing commands.
- Day 7: Completed full priming earlier in the day; body softened for the scene.
Enhancing Thrusts with Tools & Toys
In D|s-M, tools and toys can heighten the impact of thrusting techniques. A spreader bar can lock the sub’s legs open, intensifying the depth of penetration. Restraints or cuffs allow the Dom to control her movement while thrusting. Vibrators, wand massagers, or clitoral stimulators layered with penetration amplify sensation, while plugs or beads can create a feeling of fullness that makes each thrust more overwhelming. For the Dom, wearing a cock ring or sheath can prolong stamina, deepening the control of rhythm. These additions are not about replacing thrusting but about enhancing it, turning each stroke into a layered experience of power, sensation, and surrender.
Bunny Whisper 🐇
“When I started being a sub, when Sir changed his rhythm, my body reacted before my mind could catch up. His teasing made me ache until I was begging. Now, I see/feel what thrusts he starts with, and my body knows how to move to give him what he wants, and he now knows what makes me break. Every thrust is a reminder—he’s leading, I’m following, I am working my body for him to use to his advantage. It belongs to him.”
Mr. Fox WisDOM 🦊
“Thrusting isn’t about friction alone; it’s communication. Each stroke becomes a command. I read her body. Sometimes I ask her to work the thrusts, and sometimes I ask her not to, so I can use her body, objectifying it, pushing her limits, and grounding her in my control. To thrust is to lead her deeper into surrender.”
Downtime Prompts | Thrusting
- Which thrusting technique felt most potent, and why?
- SubMrs: Which left you most surrendered? Dom: Which gave you the most excellent control?
- Did any rhythm push you beyond your comfort zone? How did you adjust?
- Which technique do you want to deepen in future play?
- How did the emotional connection shift with each style?
- How did it feel when the sub worked her body to meet or change the thrust?
- How can the sub better ask permission to move in ways that serve Sir’s pleasure?
- What thrusting style might become your couple’s “signature” ritual?
- How was thrusting as a primer? Did it create a new ritual that you would like to continue, even on non-scene weeks?
